and it's the first time that anyone has moved in next door (yes, I've been lucky to live where the places next to me are vacant)

well today their is a woman called rachel moving in next door, and I am absolutely terrified.

I know she probably won't bother me, and she probably won't even see me that often,

but grrrrr!. I just want to go out their and tell her to (in nice terms) buzz off and find somewhere else to live.

I know I probably won't, because I'm too scared to even say hi to her, but how do I handle this..

their's moving, sure, but I just moved after I got evicted from that other place.. do I really want to be thinking about that so soon?
having someone next door terrifies me

really it does, and I've locked myself away and I feel trapped

help.....?

please...?

[lady411]

Did your last eviction have anything to do with you're current thought process? Just something to think about as you continue to contemplate your communication with your possible new neighbor.

My experience with neighbours has been that they mostly like to keep to themselves, and live their life, just like you! So please don't tell Rachel to "buzz off" as it may lead to a tenseness between you two, a complaint, and if it continues, another eviction.

Just leave her be, and she will leave you be. Introducing yourself if you cross paths is never a bad idea, but it's not 100% necessary either.

I recognise anxiety of the unknown and worry over the potential for something bad to happen. I have wasted a lot of what should have been positive time doing just this.

Potentially there is some actual good that may come from this. A good neighbour is far more likely than a difficult one. I realise it is hard to think positively right now but let this statement run through your head a few times.

This is also a potential to make an acquaintance - which is a good thing. Try to think on this too.

Ultimately, consider how your thinking is or is not an advantage to you.

Let us know how it goes. We are all cheering you on.

[Verity81]

I totally understand as I’ve had crappy neighbors in the past. Have you had that experience?

I’m looking to move soon as I’m in a women’s refuge and am also very scared of what the neighbors will be like.

Just remember it’s likely that you will hear normal living sounds from her and don’t get over anxious about it as you are most likely used to it being very quiet.