I hate that I keep doing this...

I hate that I keep telling people "I'm good" or "I'm fine" when they ask how I am. I get it, I'm not going to unload on the cashier but even with my friends. The closest I get is often, "I've been a bit stressed lately, but it's almost the weekend!" etc.


Even today, I got a message from a friend of mine asking about me. This friend is so kind and compassionate, has struggled with her own mental health so I know she would understand and be empathetic. I responded that I was "ok", that I'd been dealing with anxiety, and it'd been a bit of a rough year *but* it's almost summer!

I really, really wish I could have said, "honestly? I'm not doing great. Anxiety sucks, it really, really sucks, and even though I'm in therapy I'm not sure if it's enough or what to do next."

So say that next time, or just leave off the rosy positive phrase at the end. While it is therapeutic to be positive, it is equally so to just be honest sometimes, too.

Thanks. I should probably due that with closer friends/family. It's just so hard sometimes. It's like the anxiety doesn't want to be known by anyone but me.

Most do this to be honest, it's just a natural reaction and part of the social norm, so don't beat yourself up about this. Ideally, with people you can talk to, try to stop saying "but....".

However, even then, if you say it, there's nothing stopping you from going back and talking to them. I'd suggest maybe speaking to your friend. Don't even wait to be asked, but instead ask if she's ok to speak to and just let it out. We have this habit of keeping things in and it's simply not healthy.

I don't think I could live in a country where cashiers ask how I am. That is just too dang strange.

If its a friend or anyone else you feel comfortable talking about your anxiety with, then tell them so. It does help to get things off your chest.