[July131990]

Not sure if this is the right spot for this but here goes. I have a extremely toxic older sister who has abused me both emotionally and physically and both my parents. Fast forward to now she uses her son to get her way with my dad . Apparently she wants him to come up to her place for Thanksgiving two weeks after the the actual day and I know she only included me because of dad. When my dad mentioned my boyfriend coming I clearly heard her say he wasn't invited . I've tried and tried to be civil to her and include her but I can't do it anymore. She now wants her the Christmas gifts for her son brought up to her place instead of coming down here to where I live with my dad. I don't have a choice on the matter of dealing with the matter as I live in the same house as dad and cant afford to go live anywhere else and don't really want to leave my dad right now. Just needing some kind words . Thanks

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by July131990

Not sure if this is the right spot for this but here goes. I have a extremely toxic older sister who has abused me both emotionally and physically and both my parents. Fast forward to now she uses her son to get her way with my dad . Apparently she wants him to come up to her place for Thanksgiving two weeks after the the actual day and I know she only included me because of dad. When my dad mentioned my boyfriend coming I clearly heard her say he wasn't invited . I've tried and tried to be civil to her and include her but I can't do it anymore. She now wants her the Christmas gifts for her son brought up to her place instead of coming down here to where I live with my dad. I don't have a choice on the matter of dealing with the matter as I live in the same house as dad and cant afford to go live anywhere else and don't really want to leave my dad right now. Just needing some kind words . Thanks

I'm sorry that you are struggling right now. This is exactly what is going on between my sister and her daughter. Have you thought about just having thanksgiving with just your boyfriend instead? Have you thought about if possible when she comes over you go out with your boyfriend? I wouldn't being the gift there. I would sending in the mail around Christmas time. Tried this with your sister "I will not speak to our while you are acting like a child when you calm down them I will talk to you but I will not talk to you while you are yelling at me". Should she assaulted you call the police on her and enforce the boundaries. Is there anyway that you could possibly safe any money to get a new place? I know that it is hard.

[July131990]

Thanks and unfortunately I have zero income right now. I've been fighting to get disability for the last two years . I don't even have a driver's license . It sucks being dependent on others. Anyway between this stuff my boyfriend being sick last few weeks I haven't had much sleep. I've told my dad I don't want to hear anything about her but that doesn't work well. Basically I'm stuck right now