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Jun 07, 2008, 07:54 PM
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I have a hard time accepting myself; Flaws and all. I take everything to heart and I mean everything. Someone once told me, " In order to love someone; You must love yourself." Right now, I have low self-esteem and I judge myself more than I accept the good things about me. 100% of the time; I'm so down on myself, but I don't know how to think positive. How can I love myself and think positive?
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Jun 08, 2008, 07:08 PM
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Therapy helped me a lot.
I've had to learn to notice when I'm mentally putting myself down and then turn those thoughts around. I had to figure out what abusive messages I was carrying around inside, especially from my childhood. I had to (and still sometimes have to) then realize that they weren't true, and then even figure out what was and is true. One technique that often helps me is to pretend that a good friend is going through what I'm going through, what would I tell them? How would I advise them?
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Jun 08, 2008, 10:32 PM
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I would tell that person; Which is me "It isn't true and it's all lies and don't believe any of it because you are more than what people said you were going to be now."
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Jun 09, 2008, 06:25 AM
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Choloe - I don't know why we've been trained to be hard on ourselves instead of appreciating the things that we do. Look at yourself as you would look at a friend. It's easier to see the goodness in others.
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Jun 09, 2008, 09:36 AM
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choloe, you're having it hard, sending you a warm, special cuddle.
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Jun 09, 2008, 11:17 AM
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Thanks John...
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Jun 09, 2008, 11:29 AM
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Learning to love yourself is really hard, especially if you're carrying around a whole lot of distorted beliefs about yourself from childhood. I've found CBT has helped me a lot - at least I can say I don't hate myself anymore - but I've got aways to go on actually loving myself.
This may sound hokey, but one thing that has helped me is to make a list of things that I do like about myself and that I'm good at, so that when I start to get down on myself I have something positive to read, and remind myself of my good traits. Remember that you're a special person & that everyone has value as a person. splitimage
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