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#1
Jun 26, 2008, 12:18 PM
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I have anxiety issues, which is why I am here I guess. I work as a Special Education teacher who is getting her masters degree full time, and who also has a wonderfully supportive family to help her. However, I have very low self-esteem, and feel as though nothing is good enough even though I have a 4.0 and am doing well on my job. The education department is full of some wonderfully supportive women, but many who want to trash you to nothing. Many people can see icky people a mile away, but I also have ADHD, in which I miss the signs. Can anyone tell me how to see icky people so I can just separate myself from them as much as possible?
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Jun 26, 2008, 01:41 PM
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Welcome!
By icky people do you mean potentially abusive people? You might be having gut feelings about abusive people and now you just need to practice listening to those feelings, that is one possibility.
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Jun 27, 2008, 09:01 AM
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I do mean abusive people when I said icky people. I am trying to sort out some stuff in my head, and I know that means going through, not around, a lot of my past, including mistakes I have made by not listening to myself. I never know how to respond to abusive people when they are not verbally being abusive. I mean the ones who can abuse and come out looking good. It seems like so much energy to try to figure out what people are up to when a red flag goes up. I work in the school system where there are a lot of power hungry and gossipy women, which I do not do. Makes me feel bad to talk badly about other people.That says good things about me, but still I do not know how to react. Maybe by not reacting.
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Jun 27, 2008, 10:52 AM
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> I do not know how to react. Maybe by not reacting.
Not reacting, or not immediately reacting, or slowing down any reaction, works best for me. Trying not to show how you are reacting sometimes works too -- you might be surprised how you can fool people!  Then you can try to figure them out later...
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#5
Jun 27, 2008, 11:09 AM
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Welcome VirginiaGirl!
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Jun 28, 2008, 04:54 PM
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 Mean and gossipy people sure suck, I know just what you mean. I like the idea of giving yourself time to think, by not reacting obviously in the moment. Are there are situations where you can just excuse yourself and walk away? No matter what, I wish you well, I know this type of stuff can be exhausting.
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Jun 28, 2008, 06:34 PM
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Thanks to all for the confirmation!
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