[lilpandaz]

I hate this anxiety. Since I got it I am so unreliable. People ask me to do stuff and I say Yes cause I really want to help. But when the time comes I just start to panic and I can't do what I said I would. It's so frustrating. And my partner said that I just have to tell everyone that I'm sick right now and that I am unreliable. But I hate that. And I can't do anything unless he is with me. <font color="red"> </font> What do I do??? I HATE IT..........

[thelostone]

you need to learn to say no. at least for a while so that you can take care of you. in the long run you will be better off and get back to where you can say yes sometimes.

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[sparky0488]

It sounds cheesy but you need some "you" time. Gotta help yourself, come to terms with your anxiety, employ the help of a therapist. Then, when you feel confident you're on the right track, get back into the mix.

It's a gradual process but it's worth it. And if you start feeling more confident but hit an obstacle and have a setback, realize it for what it is -- a setback. And get yourself back on the road.

Trust me, you are definitely not alone.

[Schatje]

I know what you mean. You want to help, you feel that you should help, you think that the person asking will think ill of you if you say no, and you know that logically the task really isn't that hard, but anxiety isn't logical and even the simplest tasks seem monumental. I haven’t figured out how to deal with it myself, but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

[ECHOES]

I think this is so hard. And when it continues it can make you stop saying yes at all, because you start to fear that you will not feel like doing what you agreed to, when the time comes.
Maybe try to identify what's behind the anxiety about this, with your therapist?

[Tfindingmyself]

I hate that feeling of feeling like I can't be dependant on. What I have learn to do with family who know I deal with anxiety is say " I can't make any promises but I'll try it will depend on how I feel". That helps take pressure off me to perform.

With others I just say I'll have to let you know.

I've come to realize I have to take care of me first and my best is good enough.