[BretteLuvzJ]

Hi everyone. I really need some advice here. For the past 3 weeks I have not been feeling like myself. I've felt tired, stressed, had headaches, my heart beats too fast...basically, I've just not felt like doing much of anything. I had panic attacks for about a week and then they stopped, but I still have the symptoms that I mentioned before. I went to the dr. a couple of weeks ago and she checked me out and said there is nothing wrong with my heart and my thyroid test came back fine. So, she said she thinks that it is anxiety. She gave me a prescription for Xanax, but my parents will not let me have it. I am 19 years old, but I am covered by my mom's insurance so she is trying to force me to see a psychiatrist because she thinks I am crazy. She does not want me to listen to the family dr. because she doesn't think she is experienced enough with anxiety. Even if there is nothing bothering me, I still don't feel well and I wish I could get some medicine to calm me down because just telling myself to stay calm does not work. But, like I said my mom won't let me have the prescription that the dr. gave me. I really don't know what to do, but I want to feel better. I physically do not feel well because of this and therefore I don't want to get out of the house. I get nervous if someone mentions going to the mall and I feel like I have to "prepare" myself for it and I worry that I will get too nervous when I'm there. So, usually I just make up excuses for why I can't go places. I guess I think I will be okay as long as I'm at home and sitting still or resting. Even doing everyday things makes me feel stressed out, like washing dishes or taking a shower. I feel I just don't have the energy to do it. If anyone has felt this way or knows what to do about it, please let me know. I am open to suggestions. Thanks.

[kimmydawn]

i'm so sorry that you're going thru such a rough time right now. consistent and continual anxiety can be hell on earth. it sounds like your dr gave you a really good checkup, and acted appropriately.

there's a couple of things that i don't understand, though. you said that your parents won't let you take your prescribed medication? this i'm not understanding. you are 19 yrs old and this is a dr prescribed medication. it seems to me that this would be a decision for you and you alone. your mother is not living in your body. she doesn't know what your body does or doesn't need. i would NEVER presume to do that to one of my daughters (they're 17 & 22 and great kids). i would caution them about the meds, but would never attempt to disallow it or undermine their pain.

another thing is...your mother wants you to see a psychiatrist? that's what they do....medicate symptoms. they will give you a whole lot more than your dr did probably, but if your mother is so involved they may only give you what she deems appropriate?

i really don't want this to sound cold or like i'm attacking your mother. i'm a mother however, i know what it's like to be in your shoes and for no one close to understand and to even berate. it's not fair. your mother should not be calling the shots on something you so desperately need right now. unless there's something that you didn't put in the post...like past addictions, mental illness, etc.

unless there's a reason that i don't know about for your mother to deny you meds, i would get my script, get it filled and listen to my dr. she seems to have your best interest.

be safe and much luck to you,

kd