[vickiloveselvis]

last sunday me and my bf were outside our flats and a boy and girl walked past, i saw my bf look up in their sirection and me being me got paranoid that he was looking at the girl. i later asked him and he says he wasnt. hes getting annoyed with me keep bringing it up. he definately says he wasnt looking and said that if i was right he would admit it. i do believe him but i physically cant stop replaying it all over and over in my mind going over and over what i thought it looked like and what i thought. its making me really ill its waking me up in the night, im getting sweats, been sick and cant eat. why cant i let this go?

[gimmeice]

Hello vickiloveselvis, it's nice to meet you. Are you in therapy? Most people in your situation find therapy very helpful, you can examine why you have these kind of reactions and work through that. You may also find the relationships and communications forum here helpful, you may find others going through the same things you are experiencing that have some helpful tips. There is also many peer led chats offered here, to see that schedule click on the chats tab on the top of the page, a lot people find those chats very informative and helpful. I have found this is a very supportive site, check the place out and post more when you are comfortable.
I hope things get better for you soon.

[1confused]

Originally Posted by vickiloveselvis

last sunday me and my bf were outside our flats and a boy and girl walked past, i saw my bf look up in their sirection and me being me got paranoid that he was looking at the girl. i later asked him and he says he wasnt. hes getting annoyed with me keep bringing it up. he definately says he wasnt looking and said that if i was right he would admit it. i do believe him but i physically cant stop replaying it all over and over in my mind going over and over what i thought it looked like and what i thought. its making me really ill its waking me up in the night, im getting sweats, been sick and cant eat. why cant i let this go?

you shouldnt worry so much and you should talk to him more. sometimes when you worry so much you push the other person away.i was constantly worried about my gf leaving me for a year and a half, i think i made it happen. i think i worried so much that i caused my own troubles. dont keep thinkin about it over and over, think about how he treats you. is he good to you? does he show he cares? thats what really matters. my x was the best gf i ever had, she was so good to me. i wasnt used to it. i usually date people allot more closed down. it scared me, i was so afraid of losing her. i think i caused my own problems by worryin so much. something for you to think about.