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Jan 12, 2009, 03:25 PM
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Please.........
 Thank you.
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:26 PM
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You need some warm fuzzies CSC?
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:29 PM
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 Whatever is going on, hang in there!
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:32 PM
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Thank you.
Please deposit all happy fuzzies here http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=79130 I really need them for some reason today. Sorry if asking sounds rude.
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:33 PM
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((((((((((((((((( can )))))))))))))))))
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:36 PM
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:37 PM
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Jan 12, 2009, 03:44 PM
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Yes, I need warm fuzzies right now. I'm worried about a lot of things and telling myself to stop isn't working and the tears are coming and I just really need some fuzzies. I'm sorry. Thank you all.
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Jan 12, 2009, 04:23 PM
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I won't be around until later tonight but all warm fuzzies here are appreciated greatly and also fuzzies left in my fuzzy world in games would be wonderful! They really do make me smile. And when I'm having a hard time breathing, like right now, that helps.
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Jan 13, 2009, 08:56 AM
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Jan 13, 2009, 06:19 PM
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I don't know. I just feel like I crashed. I'm worried about money, depressed about my weight, and don't really think I should be crying this much just because of those things. And I really could use a nice, warm, fuzzy feeling.
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Jan 14, 2009, 10:30 AM
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Do you want to talk about those things further?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:06 PM
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I don't even know what to say. As much as I try to let it go, read all the things you and others have said to me in the past, I just keep hearing my mom making the comment about my stomach and then I look at my hands and wonder how they became to look like sausages, then I wonder why I can't just go with it. So I'm a size 14 (tight), big deal. I'm not my sister, I'm not 20 year old me. I'm 40 year old me. My life has changed so why shouldn't it be ok for my body to change. I don't understand why I won't accept me. Is it because others (family) don't? Is it because of my constant strive for perfection? Does that mean I don't think a size 14 is perfect? Why do I think I'm so different from everyone else that a size 14 and 189 pounds is ok for others not me? I don't know the answers to those and it makes me mad. I want to accept myself, but then I feel like I'm giving in. I want to lose weight, but I can't seem to. Do I really need to lose weight to be happier? I feel like a complete idiot.
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:12 PM
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CSC
, I'm a size 14 too! . I have just accepted where I'm at. Come join me, I'll give you a big hug ..........This woman is your mother so when she says these things what does it really mean to you?
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:22 PM
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It means I'm still not good enough. I'm still the disappointment of a kid who is sitting on the basement steps listening to her say, "your sister has a lot of friends. I don't understand why you don't. Why aren't you friends with Kelly and Gina and Michelle? You'll just never be as good at things."
It means she lived her life through us and now that I'm "fat", she doesn't want to. She used to take such pride in how thin we were without even trying, after all we got it from her--I don't think there's anyone in town that doesn't know she weighed 98 pounds when she got married. I weight 111 and wore her wedding dress, but of course she had to alter it because I was heavier than her. But you know, if she were to never say another hurtful thing to me about it, I don't know that I would still be happy. When you say you are a size 14 I picture someone of a good weight, beautiful who never would think about their weight because a 14 isn't big. I was almost suicidal when I had to buy size 14 though. It's like for me it's not acceptable for everyone else it is. I didn't know I was so screwed up! (and I gave in to the blessed comfort eating today--I'm having a pop-tart. But I did have salad for lunch).
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:26 PM
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So you got the message from your mom that being thin is everything. If you are thin, life is good! It is hard to let go of messages from people who are so important in your life, especially when you are a kid and they are all that you have. Parents can be and are wrong though.
Do you think also that you might be thinking if you are thin enough then your mom will finally love you and then you can finally love you?
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:31 PM
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Some stupid part of me is, yeah. But even when I was thin I was still neer good enough. Then she was telling me I was too thin, you could see my collar bone. I just need to get over it. I just don't know how. I know that even if were the reincarnate of Mary, Mother of God, I wouldn't be good enough. I usually just don't even try. When it comes to my weight and my lonliness, she just pushes the buttons almost without trying!
I am going to try very hard to join you for that hug and being happy at 14!
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:39 PM
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Yes, you can't win playing this game. You deserve to be accepted and loved for just who you are and we all here think you are quite wonderful!
. I don't know know exactly what your mother's problem is but you will never get what you need from her, never.......... This certainly doesn't mean that you won't get what you need. You just need to get to the place where you truly realize that you won't get it from her. And of course she loves you but her behavior has given you the exact opposite message your whole life and this is the one that you hold in your heart. This is the message that hurts.........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:47 PM
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  Thank you dear friend! I'm sorry I'm so needy and hung up on this.
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:50 PM
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Your welcome my friend!
You are not doing anything wrong! Talking about our issues is what will set us free from them. You're not supposed to need anything, though, huh?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#21
Jan 14, 2009, 02:51 PM
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Not really. Yet another issue
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Jan 14, 2009, 02:55 PM
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Do you feel better about this other issue now?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 14, 2009, 03:02 PM
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I do (until I see another picture of myself!). Thank you again. You are priceless!!
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Jan 14, 2009, 03:04 PM
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You can work through this CSC! You're welcome and have a good afternoon......
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