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Old Mar 05, 2005, 06:03 PM
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Hey i'm a newbie. I'm a uni student aged 19.
I've had this weird problem in the past particularly between the ages of about 11 and 15 and it kinda came back.
I'm a generally well-balanced person except for this urge i have to touch peoples necks.
It's not intentional and i can't think why. Urge seems such a strong word for it. I certainly don't want to hurt people when i do. I just sorta like doing it. It's really only a problem because it's just a strange behaviour and doesn't appear natural.
I used to touch people's necks on purpose when i hugged them and my family kinda noticed and made me realise i was doing it too often for it to be normal and so i stopped. but recently i've got basically my first very close boyfriend who i'm very happy with and i've started touching his neck. I dont hurt him or anything but for instance when he puts his arm around my waist, instead of resting my hand on his shoulder i'll rest it on his neck.
I feel really bizarre about this; i don't have any linked emotions to it i just apear to like the feel of people's necks.
ANY IDEAS AT ALL would be welcome as i've searched hi and low online and in libraries and found nothing of the sort!
It doesn't worry me but upsets me as it's a habit i thought i'd grown out of and now it appears to be back bigtime. I just want to resolve it so i don't do it any more. I sound psychotic or something but i'm really a normal person besides this and it's not noticeable; my bf hasn't even noticed.
Please help?

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Old Mar 07, 2005, 01:06 PM
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i really have no idea what to say. I know that whenever I have a boyfriend I like to run my fingers through their hair. I'm not sure why I do this and have haad a bf point it out to me but they didn't mind. Whenever he was close I had the urge to but never anyother time. Sorry I can't be of more help.
apparently i'm weird-i can't find any help on this-HELP A NEWBIE!
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Old Mar 07, 2005, 04:26 PM
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I thought I had already replied to this... looks like I didnt.

Anyway... maybe it is just that you find the shape of necks attractive or something. I guess as long you're having no thoughts of violence along with it, it's ok.
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Old Mar 08, 2005, 04:36 AM
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Hi motiv,

Well, if it is a compulsion, it is one of the most harmless compulsions I have ever heard of. I guess it only matters if it upsets you or someone else, otherwise it is kind of cute.

We can tell if something is a compulsion if we get upset if we can't do it, or if we have to keep doing it and get upset when we stop.

Does it feel like that for you?

Cheers, Myzen. apparently i'm weird-i can't find any help on this-HELP A NEWBIE!
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Old Mar 10, 2005, 04:36 PM
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Thanks, it's reassuring to hear your support.
All that really worries me is that i'm aware of it and although he's not expressed any uncomfort or anything i haven't had the guts to bring it up with him altough i'm sure he'd be supportive.
Thanks a lot!
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