[CJR520]

My sister-in-law who is a very quiet, sensible person, was with me the other night, and she told me why they don't really want to be together with the whole family much any more. Because of the way my son and daughter in law treat their little girl, who is the oldest. The one I talk about. We were shopping and having some fun together, and I told her that I really did understand, and that it was really hard for us. That is why we went out to eat for Thanksgiving. This gal only opens up once in a great while, and is not a gossip or trouble maker so I know that she has been watching and observing. I'm glad she felt that she could tell me, but in the same breathe, my son and his wife are just ruining family fun and holidays. I am doing really well so far this year. Have our decorations all up, and looking forward to Christmas. They will just have to wake up and smell the roses!!! No one wants them around!!! I would think they would wake up soon !!

[JustBen]

I hope your holidays get better. The way they treat your granddaughter must be pretty bad if other relatives are avoiding even watching it. If your son and daughter-in-law ask why Aunt So-and-So isn't there, are you going to tell them?

[CJR520]

Yes, I am going to tell them. I have been saying things a little at a time, and being on the defensive for my grandaughter. I am trying my best without completely turning them away, because I know she needs my husband and I and may even more in the future.

[JustBen]

Yeah, that's a really good point. If you're too blunt, that could cause some problems between you and them and separate you from your granddaughter. It's even tougher to deal with than it originally seemed.