[CJR520]

My little grandaughter who has ADHD has such a hard time. For two and one half years, since they moved to Ohio, they have been screaming and yelling at her, and forcing her to eat. Now, when we were out for Thanksgiving dinner at a restaurant, she was happy and eating lots of good food, and really enjoying herself, and the parents were calling her a hog. The little child never wins!! What the hell is wrong with them?

[livingwithadd]

Maybe one or both of them has undiagnosed AD/HD themselves.

[INaBOX]

They're obviously not aware on how their presenting themselves. Maybe you can let them know?

[hillbunnyb]

Gramma. I don't know what's wrong with them, but this rates as child abuse in my book. How old is the child? Does she know she can talk to you for support? Tuffy. Good Luck.

[CJR520]

She is a very mixed up little girl, and at almost nine years old now, is getting very mouthy and arrogant. I knew this was coming. The parents are in for a real ride now! I have tried my best to speak up. They have been turned in twice, and get away with it because of the church they belong to. They stick together like a cult no matter what is going on because they are afraid of losing members. Makes me sick!!

[JustBen]

When you say they've been turned in, do you mean that someone has called Child Protectice Services or an agency like that? If so, how did their church help them get away with it? (If this is too personal, feel free to ignore. I'm just blown away and would like to know how something like this happens.)

[CJR520]

Yes, they have been turned in twice to Childrens Services and get away with it. Their church is big and there are wealthy people in it who stick up for each other no matter what. The home is lovely and new, and my son makes very good money. Obviously, here in our county, the social workers are not well trained to see through the bull %#@&#!!! My son and daughter in law have blamed this children's service thing on one of daughter in laws aunts. They have no idea who turned them in the same as I don't know. So, in turn, her mother, who lives with them, is not allowed phone calls from her sisters, or to visit them. They turn away gifts from her sisters that are delivered to their home, etc. They were also turned in for elderly abuse early this summer, and it just keeps going on and on. The mother has alzheimers, not real bad, but beginning. They have gotten power of attorney, have taken her home and 30 acres (where she was living with her two sisters) are remodeling it, and going to sell the brand new one that they built one year ago. Daughter in law is an only child, told us this summer that she is just ready for her mom to die so they can have it all! I am sick!! If the social workers would really get this child aside and talk to her like they are supposed to do, they would hear plenty!!

[Kismet]

I am not defending their actions but.......how many of you have dealt with a child with ADHD---it is much much more difficult than you might imagine. The parents sound like they need help and support--professionally and personally. Raising an ADHD child can be extremely trying even with help. Perhaps you could help them find some resources nearby?

[CJR520]

Everyone has done their best to help them. I even suggested that the child have counseling to maybe help the parents also, in handling her. Yes, you are right! It is just the hardest thing sometimes to get ADHD kids to cooperate on the smallest things at times. I feel sorry for them but they cannot abuse.