[clairebear2k6]

well the title of this post says it all really. when a father thinks about walking out on his family because he cannot stand being around his son, is it better for him to just go?

i feel ashamed to have created children with a man who cannot face his responsibility.

i know it is hard dealing with special needs kids, but seriously, walking out on them?

penny for your thoughts x

Hi clairebear2k6 It's hard to answer your question. If he truly wants to leave and is determined to leave then I'd answer with a yes, it's better to let him go.
I read your other posts and it sounds like a really tough situation for you.
I think you might get more response and support by posting this question in another forum where more people may see it. I only noticed it because I was searching for unanswered threads.
I just looked and I can't find a"general" support forum but maybe the coping/emotions forum might get more responses.
Or maybe you might find one you think is good. I don't see a post by you in the new members forum. Welcome to PC and I hope you can also find support here for a parent's struggles raising a special needs child as well as as insights and support for the child.
I wish you well.

[clairebear2k6]

thanks george h
i know nobody can say it is for the best or not. i guess i have come here recently just to vent. i used to be a member of another forum when i suffered bad depression and it helped me a lot to just send stuff out there on the seas. i guess back then i was quite alone in life and it was all i had. it isn't quite like that now, but there are similarities. the truth is i have not felt this broken down and knackered out since way back then. but back then i had the luxury of falling apart and it only affecting me. i can't do that now - i won't do that now. hmm maybes i will take a wander over to the forum you suggested. thanks again for your well wishes and kind response. it means a lot that even one person heard me : )
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