Talked to my mom for the first time tonight about ADHD for like an hour! I didn't tell her that I have it myself but (using the book Delivered from Distraction for reference) I was able to talk through the symptoms and such and talk about which ones we see in my dad. I read her the parts of the book so far (I'm only on page 90) that I really enjoyed the most and we actually had a pleasant conversation!! She was much more accepting then I originally thought she would be for me it was exciting because I never thought I would be able to talk to my mother at all about that! So tonight I'm celebrating a little for this accomplishment and doing a little happy dance maybe eventually I will be able to tell her that I have ADHD and she will accept it

Have any of you had experience telling others you have ADHD? What tactics did you use? Do you have any advice?

Ps I love the book Delivered from Distraction! The people who wrote it are brilliant and so funny! One of my favorite quotes so far is "my thoughts are like butterflies. They are beautiful, but they fly away. (After treatment) now I can put a net around the butterflies"

[Maus5321]

Originally Posted by Horsegirl72794

Talked to my mom for the first time tonight about ADHD for like an hour! I didn't tell her that I have it myself but (using the book Delivered from Distraction for reference) I was able to talk through the symptoms and such and talk about which ones we see in my dad. I read her the parts of the book so far (I'm only on page 90) that I really enjoyed the most and we actually had a pleasant conversation!! She was much more accepting then I originally thought she would be for me it was exciting because I never thought I would be able to talk to my mother at all about that! So tonight I'm celebrating a little for this accomplishment and doing a little happy dance maybe eventually I will be able to tell her that I have ADHD and she will accept it

Have any of you had experience telling others you have ADHD? What tactics did you use? Do you have any advice?

Ps I love the book Delivered from Distraction! The people who wrote it are brilliant and so funny! One of my favorite quotes so far is "my thoughts are like butterflies. They are beautiful, but they fly away. (After treatment) now I can put a net around the butterflies"

Good for you! Small steps I had no tactic when I told my parents, I just opened the bomb bay doors and let fat man and little boy drop

This is great news, keep up the work and move forward at a speed your comfortable with.

[Samanthagreene]

I had a friend with ADHD and I always knew she was a little bit different. I found out when her mother told my mother who told me. Now we talk about it sometimes, but she's usually kind of embarrassed. Also, not all of her friends know so sometimes they make fun of her and I have to tell them off. I got diagnosed a year ago and I'm still not sure I have ADHD but when I told her, I basically sat her down and told her.

It's probably really good you had the conversation with your mom already because it makes the subject less taboo. I would recommend just going for it. You've already paved the way really well. If you keep losing courage right before you mention it, I find it's way easier after I get the first word out. Good luck with everything.

[growlithing]

I don't really have a problem telling people about having ADHD. I guess by the time that I admitted to myself that I have it, I wasn't embarrassed by it anymore. If people don't believe me or respect it, then that's their problem. It doesn't change that I have ADHD.

I dunno. I have a MUCH harder time talking about my other psych issues (some sort of depression/anxiety/PTSD situation. I haven't ever had anyone diagnose me to address what specifically is going on). Maybe it's because of the lack of a label that it's hard or maybe it's just that I find it much more personal than ADHD. I don't ever blame myself for ADHD when I sometimes do for the others. Maybe I'm just weird though.

[Maus5321]

I use to worry so much about what people thought etc etc because I was always the odd kid. I did weird things as a child growing up. I had weird interests. So I was pretty secluded. I had a a few select friends growing up but I found much to not have friends. Recently though I got diagnosed adhd. A lot of the things I learned about it and have learned from my doctor opened my eyes up to many things. Sure I am a little off I suppose in others eyes, but you know what. If they have an issue, that is there issue. Get over it. Having adhd can be a pain in the butt, but you know. There are so many things I think that are wonderful about it. I would not trade it. Sure I struggle in areas but you who doesn't. But when excel at something we can do it with so much passion and creativeness. We are not bound by rules of society in our minds. Or we can make a left where everyone else makes a right turn. My mother tries to tell me to not tell people about it, but I feel that it is not something to hide nor be ashamed of. I am a bad liar anyway. I would rather just tell you. If you can't handle it or believe it. meh that is on you. not me.

Thank you all for your help and support <3

[Goldengurl25]

Most of the people that know I have ADHD are really curious to know more about (although my mother in law thinks she has it too). However, my mom thinks my ADHD is a myth, and that because of my good grades that I couldn't possibly have it. Ah well, not everyone is going to be supportive.

[SunnySky]

Though I have not been officially diagnosed, my 21yo DD was last month; then after meeting with a new doctor (D. O.)
for a physical, she recommended three books and said we need to talk about this (after other issues are addressed). I've read 90% of the three she recommends, plus two of Dr. Amen's. Yep.... it's genetic. I was an A student in school and as an adult. Guess that is hyperfocus for ya! It meant something to me, and likely you too.

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[avlady]

I am happy for you and your mom, she will get used to it, and be more understanding most likely now that she knows more, it is a good thing to keep talking about it.