[BlueButterflyMomma]

This past weekend My husband had visitation of his 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I thought the weekend went well despite the fact my husband more or less worked all of it so I was home with his daughter and our soon to be 2 year old son. She spent Saturday over at her aunts (my husbands Sister's) house playing with her two kids. Sunday came, I made french toast for her, proceeded to get the dishes out of the way, got laundry done, made her lunch consisting of honey bbq chicken strips, white rice and grapes with juice on the side, I played ball with the kids for about an hour or so, When my son was down for his nap and I had no real housework left to do, so I watched a little tv while she was watching a movie that she was into. I started cooking dinner around 12 pm as I was doing a crock pot ranch pork so it would take a while to cook. I proceeded to clean up the toys that the kids played with which I normally ask her to pick up what she had played with but gave her a brake this last weekend. Needless to say there were toys everywhere so it took a minute to pick up everything. I fed her dinner and got her and my son ready to go and drop her off at the designated meeting area.

I find out much later from my husband that his ex was blowing up his phone with text messages saying that I was a lazy, jobless housewife!!! This woman does not know me in the least bit. She also said that her daughter does all the cleaning at our house when she is here which is an outright lie if I ever heard one. I swear the nerve of some people. I swear she has nothing better to do with her time because if it's not one thing it's another with this woman.

My husband works very hard so that I am able to stay home with our son instead of sending him to some daycare. I also find it difficult to work with my mental issues as I am diagnosed with ADD, Depression, Anxiety, and bipolar disorder. She doesn't know about my issues as it's none of her business. Because of my ADD, I am a very disorganized person, I always have been. My home may be disorganized and cluttered but it's clean. I know that what she said has no principle and she is just trying to start **** again but it's been on my mind since I saw the text messages so I was on a mission to unclutter my living room today. *Sigh* any input would be greatly appreciated... I feel so frigging violated by this woman without her stepping a foot in this house.

[Travelinglady]

I am so sorry. I'd be infuriated myself! I don't want to cause any more problems, but I am thinking your husband should not have told you what hs ex-wife said. I wonder why he chose to do so.

Obviously you can't change her thinking, since she will have it in for you anyway. Please consider the source.