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Nov 17, 2014, 10:48 AM
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I have a teenage daugther who has ADD and depression. She is addicted to her iphone and eletronic devices in general. She has made some bad decsions by impulse for about the last year. They involve spending money without permission from parents mostly online. She has gotten caught once again and now feels ashamed and talks about ending her life. She says she feels stupid and should not be here. I don't think she is susidical, the only time she mentions it is when she is in trouble or had a fight with her mother, otherwise she loves life very much. I'm not sure what to do, she is on meds and has just started with a T. How do we break this cycle of bad impulse decsions? Do I take the iphone away? Please help.
Thanks PS I also have ADD and I have bipolar and have been in similair situations so I understand what she is feeling. |
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#2
Nov 17, 2014, 11:57 AM
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What is her source of money? Is she working? Does she pay any rent? I would schedule a time when you and her mom and she can sit down together and discuss a budgeting plan. I don't know if taking away her iPhone will do much at this point. She needs to learn how to be responsible with money and how to budget. Good luck.
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Nov 17, 2014, 12:13 PM
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I gave her my itunes account number with the understanding she would ask before she downloaded anything that cost $. You do need a itunes/apple id to download free apps from the app store. That's were she is having the trouble buying apps and games on her iphone. She is not working and does not pay rent, she is 13.
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Nov 17, 2014, 12:46 PM
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Oh, OK. Well she's not too old to have the iPhone taken away but I still think a talk about budgeting and saving what money she does get rather than spending may help.
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#5
Nov 17, 2014, 01:33 PM
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It seems like the immediate issue could be easily remedied by changing your iTunes account information. There are tons of free apps she can use.
But please don't ignore her when she says she's suicidal. It may seem manipulative to you (e.g., she only says it when she's in trouble), but the shame and guilt may be bad enough that she truly does feel suicidal. I've been accused of making manipulative suicidal threats when I was actually suicidal and asking for help, and all that did was make me stop telling anyone or asking for help before I attempted. Just because it looks manipulative to you doesn't mean it's not real for her. |
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Nov 17, 2014, 02:08 PM
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Oh gosh I completely zoned out on the suicide stuff. I'm sorry. I agree with geis.
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