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Jun 10, 2015, 12:10 PM
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I am no expert but from my opinion everyone has trouble with friends from time to time and most of the time people grow apart. I understand sometimes the ADD/HD symptoms may have a part to play in friendship problems but at the end of the the day it takes 2 to tango, so if someone doesn't want to be friends with you and blames you because of "your ADHD" then they shouldn't be in your life.
I wish i had ADD/HD but unfortunately i don't, however i have an amazing who does and i tell her time and time again to ignore anyone that tells her they don't want to be friends with her because of her ADD. You wouldn't defriend someone because they have depression or anxiety so why do it to someone who has ADHD? It really grates me because it makes my friend feel inadequate or that there is something wrong with her. Her impulsiveness can throw some people off but everyone has flaws or something they're not proud of, but we're all human. So i personally believe that it isn't fair to imply just because someone has ADD/HD that they can't make or keep friends because thats not the case. I adore my friend and its because i accept her regardless of what other people think cause she is an amazing friend and is an extrovert once you get to know her. She may appear like an introvert but thats simply because people have been soooooo rude to her in the past that she has the lost the confidence to be herself. I hate reading forums of people who have ADHD and have no friends cause is horrible, as i always say to my friend " if they can't handle ya they can't have ya" so anytime someone clashes with her i tell her that she deserves better friends than that. If i had the abiltity i would be friends with anyone and everyone who has ADHD because i think from knowing a few people who have it, that they are the most nicest, politest, sympathetic, interesting, random, amazing, compassionate, hilarious and spontaneous people EVER. The world would be very boring and dull without add'ers so i just want to say that ADHD doesn't make you any less of a friend & it doesn't stop you from making & keeping friends, its the people who haven't got it that have the issue. I don't have ADD/HD but my friend does and she's an amazing friend to me  Claire
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Jun 10, 2015, 04:21 PM
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I don't have it myself, but know some wonderful people that do. And yes, they have friends that have spanned time.
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Jun 10, 2015, 04:30 PM
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my friend for instance has a new friendship group every few years but we have been friends for 7 years and hopefully many many more.Claire
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Jun 10, 2015, 05:24 PM
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I have ADHD. And no friends in real life. Only once did I try to tell someone of my ADHD. They did not believe me. Daily I wonder why I cannot make friends. Only my therapist knows of my ADHD. I guess there are lots of reasons people cannot make friends.
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Jun 10, 2015, 05:47 PM
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Jun 11, 2015, 05:25 AM
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Sometimes luck plays a part. I always had friends. I have aspergers so I'm not supposed to make friends, but alas, I was never friendless, for good and bad. How the friends happened? The right people rained on me. Simple as that. For as much bad luck people have in life, someone statistically must have good luck sometimes, right?
Anyway, I'm not sure what the first 2 best friends of my life "had", but it is possible it was ADD, they didn't diagnose back then. I had to move away from them and keeping in touch proved too hard. I was only a child. The next best friend I got I kept into adulthood, she wasn't diagnosed as a child either, but with ADHD as an adult. That was the only friendship that was actually broken. My next best friend had BPD. My current best friend since 20 years isn't diagnosed but we're very aware she's a bit odd, LOL. I think she has ADHD with autistic traits. I will say this, people without ADD/ADHD aren't as much fun. Not to me anyway. Even my kittycat I'm sure has ADHD! I have 2 cats and yes I DO love the cat without ADHD too! So yes there are exceptions. 
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Jun 11, 2015, 10:25 AM
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Thank you for replying and sharing that i really appreciate it, i think you're right it is about luck. Some people in our lives are lessons and others are blessings, i am blessed to know a few people with ADD/HD. I am glad you have had brilliant luck with friends and interesting ones too. I agree ADD/HD people are more interesting, i wish i had it. Hahaha now you say that i think my dog might be gifted she has a brilliant personality and is very energetic im glad you have ADHD cats to keep you entertained they are really good company aren't they. Claire
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