[Claire2015]

This is something i hear a lot and for a while i gotta admit i didn't understand either... ADD/HD was all new to me. Until my friend was diagnosed i didn't have a clue about it or many other mental health conditions to be honest i was completely oblivious.

I am so glad that i met an ADD'er because it really has made a huge impact on me and i have fully opened my eyes to it. My friends that have ADD constantly feel like no one understands (which can be true to an extent) i hate hearing this because no one should feel alone. Loneliness doesn't come from being alone but from feeling like no one cares or understands..... Which breaks my heart saying that, no one should feel alone.

Whoever invented these online forums deserve an trophy or something for helping people who feel alone to be apart of a community where they're understood and it helps people like myself gain some perspective from your experiences of ADHD.

I understand a lot more about ADD/HD and try to be the best i can be to my friends with it. I still have a lot to learn but i can relate in many ways as i have anxiety so i can be super empathetic in that aspect.

I can only imagine the constant frustration of being distracted from pretty much everything that isn't of interest such as writing essays or paying bills. Basically everything I take forgranted.... I am able to do things simply because they need to be done... Whereas ADD'ers seem to have to gear yourself up for it which uses a lot of motivation and determination.

I take the relatively easy way of making solid relationships with friends,partners etc forgranted. I understand not everyone is the same and some ADD'ers are social butterflies... But for those who aren't im guessing that is another frustration to add to the list.

I could be wrong but i'm guessing it is probably a horrible feeling thinking that people will be judging you for being yourself... Cause it is obviously all you have ever known unless you have taken meds for it. My friend is SUPER conscious of herself and i try to reasure her but all it takes is one a**h**** to insult her and she will break down.

Losing friends, partners, jobs etc must be incredibly painful, i am a sensitive person so just one person falling out with me upsets me greatly. I can only imagine how tough it must be when it becomes a kinda regular occurance. My friends don't care anymore... If they lose something oh well... It's gone now what's next?

I do my best to try and patch up the scars my friends have from dealing with ALL the negativity but it's not always easy. Especially in school, college or work because you're surrounded by people that don't understand or care and that for me is horrible to even think about.

It seems like torture being told to do something you aren't interested in that will take many many hours of hard work and effort just to satisfy someone who has it easy. Being in an environment with the same people doing the same thing would be boring for anyone let alone ADD'ers.

My friends with ADD always feel like aliens because they have to work twice as hard and twice as long to complete something that NT people take forgranted which i really want to raise awareness about because some people can be harsh and don't consider how others will feel.

I'm not perfect AT ALL but i do my best for my friends and i really wish i knew about ADHD sooner so i could of been a lot better to my friend when she went through HELL in school. I said i understood at the time but this was before she was diagnosed so i didn't know at all.... Infact i probably came across as a know it all my bad.. I now have a lot more knowledge about ADD as it is a BIG part of my life now.

The point of this post is not to shame anyone with ADHD but just to prove to you that not all neurotypical people don't understand. I truly do care about how i make feel especially ADD'ers who deal with enough as it is. I try my best to make my friends life easier by taking the blame or helping them finish work here and there to prevent anyone having a go at them for not completing it.

I really want to come across condescending or patrionising i simply just want to be good to ADD'ers more than anyone else because i think they're amazing people and shouldn't have to feel like an outsider for being unique and intelligent.

I don't want anyone feeling alone or anything so i am more than happy to talk with anyone that wants to vent or to just listen

Claire

[gayleggg]

I don't think anyone that hasn't suffered from a mental health issue can possibly understand the pain and challenges of those who actually suffer from them.

I think it's great you are here to support others.

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[Claire2015]

Originally Posted by gayleggg

I don't think anyone that hasn't suffered from a mental health issue can possibly understand the pain and challenges of those who actually suffer from them.

I think it's great you are here to support others.

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That is very true i really want to help people out as best i can and if i try to get an idea of what it's like i might be able to get a slight understanding

Claire