[LymaBeane]

I have been diagnosed with OCD and Depression and ADHD and I am taking meds for those. I have been having problems at work lately. I have had them before. I was told by a few people (one had retired years ago) that I am in the perfect place to work because most people wouldn't understand me and I could lose my job if I were somewhere else. We have a new manager and I guess I am in some kind of trouble.

My boss and I have had our differences and I have gone beyond the call of duty not to let things she says get to me. She tends to talk down to me. She talks to me like a child. 2 weeks ago it was too much and I was told my attitude wasn't good. Her boss is on vacation (she was one of the ones who told me I am in the right place). Well my boss is mad at me and someone told me she is in cahoots with our manager (we have had for 2 years). I had a performance eval in May 2011. I got an email saying to meet my boss in 35 minutes for another eval. I walked up to her desk and asked her why was I getting two. She said stiffly that she would tell me at the meeting. I called the Union and they told her I requested a representative with me so she canceled till Jan 9.

My daughter told me that I used to say things that were wrong and miss social cues and she would try to tell me but I would interpret her as disrespecting me. She told me the other day that I either over perceive something that isn't true or under perceive.

I don't know if I have Aspergers or not. I took the online test and I scored 36. I have always felt I didn't belong in the work place. I am not in a relationship. I don't have friends to hang out with. I have my daughter and 3 beautiful grandkids.

When I am not at work, I am usually stuck in my apt, unless I go see the kids which might be once a week or every two weeks.

The people at work know I have issues. But Aspergers is something my daughter wants me to bring to the table as a disability so they can't fire me or get me in trouble. I do see a psychiatrist and he acknowledges the OCD, Depression and the ADHD. He has never mentioned or thought of Aspergers.

I am confused. Is this why I can't move up at work and get into trouble sometimes and why I don't have a mate? Is this why I think back and realize I have said the wrong things and have turned many people away from me? Am I a freak or something?

[unaluna]

I was told I couldn't bring up Asperger's as a "defense" at my eval/firing unless I had asked for accommodations for my disability when I hired in. But there are probably several differences between your case and mine: I had been hired just 3 years previously (in 2000, fired in 2003). Also, I was often late, so it was very easy for them to build a case against me.

Very smart to request your Union rep. How long have you been working there? How easy would it be to find another job? How do you get your meds, GP or psychiatrist? You may want to contact an employment rights lawyer.

[CantExplain]

Work was the place where my Aspergers caused the most trouble.
But I had other issues too.

[bpdruins]

It could be that your ADD distracts you from missing social cues. Hard to explain without a thorough evaluation. Do you have trouble recognizing faces sometimes or do you not understand facial expressions? My mom thought I had Aspergers once, but I always understand facial expressions and the sublties of social communication, its just that I missed them because I was distracted either by zoing out or distracted by external stimuli. Probably due to bipolar disorder/add.