[mouse3910]

My daughter is 6 and a half.

Since she was 4 1/2, she has absconded numerous times - the first time was a trip to the park by herself.
She is in her second year of primary school, and she is skipping class - she often hides at the end of lunchtime and then refuses to go into class. She has also hidden in the toilets during class to avoid going back in.

She is rude, disobedient, and extremely tiring. She stims - she runs up and down the house boucing off walls and couch, and walls and couch - this can carry on for up to an hour.
She is extremely literal - she can't understand sarcasm. She takes everything literally - if you say you're leaving in 10 minutes, you can't possibly leave in 12 minutes or there's a meltdown. She has massive tantrums, and even worse meltdowns - they can be over something as simple as me saying we're having spaghetti for dinner but we end up having chicken.

She can't follow verbal instructions, I've taken to using picture cards on the wall to help her get dressed in the morning.
She's booked into the paediatrician next month to be assessed - I believe there's quite a few things that describe my child.

Aspergers
ODD

she's also very hyperactive, but the teacher is "sure" she doesn't have ADHD or ADD or Aspergers (just because she happens to have taught a child with ADHD, and a child with Aspergers and they aren't like my kid) - yeah, because all kids on the spectrum are the same of course :/

I'm at the end of my tether with her. I'm running out of energy to deal with her. I nearly died in childbirth 2 years ago with her younger brother, and the recovery was about 18 months in total. I wasn't myself for around 12 months, and needed a lot of support. I wonder if maybe she's emotionally damaged because of that.

[-jimi-]

The whole teacher diagnosing kids is so out of hand.

Doctors diagnose, actually specialists and not just GP's, not the teacher's job. I wouldn't have a teacher do surgery on me.