[azizaAkos]

So Im going to post what my husband said on FB among thousands of his "friends and followers" the post didn't last but maybe 45 min before he took it offline but if I need to post it so I don't feel so upset and alone. His post will be is qoutes and after that I will post more below it....

"This is very important. I think I know why Adam Lanza killed all those children in Sandy Hook. I heard two things in the news about him. One was that he was a vegan and loved animals and wouldn't eat meat because of the cruelty they suffered. The other is that he had asperger's syndrome. The two are connected. My wife has asperger's syndrome so I know how it works. She wasn't violent and wouldn't have done this, but she would have thought about it. Aspergers people are generally very intelligent on one hand, and unable to rationalize on the other. My wife could build a webpage. I can barely do email. She has other things she is very good at, but she can't drive a car and she hates crowds or social activity. Lanza was apparently very good at computers and could drive, but he was also anti-social. My wife is also a vegan and hated animal cruelty. I am a vegetarian and I don't eat meat because of the way animals are treated and because it isn't healthy. I believe Lanza was locked into the animal cruelty and he finally just snapped. I can tell you about my wife having things happen that made her do things she wouldn't normally do if she didn't have aspergers but I won't put them on FB. My wife was also suicidal at times and I believe Lanza was too. What probably happened is he saw something on the internet about animal cruelty, probably factory farming where mother animals are often separated from the newborn babies. He knew he couldn't do anything about it, so he decided to teach people what it feels like to lose their children as factory farm animals do. He smashed his computers because he didn't want anyone to know his motive. He got his mother's guns, which she should never have had and killed her so she couldn't stop him. He put on the bullet proof vest so he wouldn't be stopped even though he knew he would have to kill himself. He went to the school and did the massacre for the sole purpose of letting people suffer the same way animals suffer when their babies are killed. He felt that the animals were killed for no good reason and he wanted people to feel the same way about the children, not knowing why they were killed. Then he killed himself. He couldn't deal with all the animal cruelty and I bet his computer was full of sites that show this sort of thing."

My first inital reaction was to lay down and cry for a good long time and I did. A lot of my issues I deal with today are from my inital 10-15 min diagnosis when I was 13 or so years old and diagnosed at the time with AS. Since seeing current doctors they haven't been able to confirm said diagnosis and they said without time and testing I will not know for sure and that is something I plan to do. The current docs say I have PTSD, depression, SAD, panic disorder, GAD and thats about all they have said thus far.
Its not that I dislike people with AS or think badly of them the part that I DONT like is that its been used to hurt me over and over and over again. I hate how my family treated me when I got the Diagnosis I hate that its been used against me, used to harm me and to threaten me.
While I am vegan and been suicidal and still to some point am I HAVE NEVER had thoughts or considered hurting humans and certainly NOT children..... beyond wishing to give my husband a good kick in a very sensative area! I am so hurt that he said things like that and that he believe people with AS want to harm others and may snap.
I am anti social because I am terrified of people mostly men.
Its not the first time he has said bad things about my having AS he has posted stuff on FB in the past he used it to try to get women to feel sorry for him so he could get them into bed with him he used it to con people out of money he even tried several times to have me thrown in a hospital and sent back to my parents whom are abusive. My husband was the one that abused ME. I am homeless and lost everything when I left him. I am so beyond hurt.

[unaluna]

No offense but your ex sounds like he's a few sandwiches short of a picnic, if you get my meaning.

[Flooded]

There is so much in that post I could tear to shreds but I agree with Hanky. And where does he get off telling fb land how Lanza felt? Seriously?

[azizaAkos]

Stuff like this is why we are seperated and going through divorce he was and continues to be a *** but what I don't get is why so many people fall for what he says and like it. I just don't get it. Then again I married the man so i guess I'm pretty stupid myself huh?

[Flooded]

You're separated love so no not stupid. And you can't be held responsible for his dumbarsed opinion.

I hate to be defined so strictly by my disorder, gender, race, and so forth. Offensive.

[CantExplain]

((Aziza))

[Callista]

There will always be bigots in the world. Don't let them tell you what you are worth.

[bluesycorax]

His whole post is so assuming. Like he not only knew Lanza personally but lived in his brain. I wonder if he ever took the time to really know YOU!

I don't mean to bash anyone and I can only judge him by what he wrote publicly but he really comes off as someone who is willing to say anything in order to appear an expert. Must have been quite the pain and irritation to live with.

Don't feel ashamed of what people might think of you, he should be ashamed of what people might think of him. You appear to have intelligence, he doesn't. There is always someone who thinks they are an expert with tiny pieces of information and the rest hearsay and stuff made up to fill in the blanks. After all even the press don't know the whole story (though some pretend too) and maybe we never will know (especially if he wasn't diagnosed)but we do know that your ex thinks he knows everything even though the experts dont. He ran with that and came across as a fool. Let it go roll off your back and care nothing about it.
Glad you're separated, someone with an ounce of compassion would be better. Don't let it get to you. I have Aspergers and I'm proud of it whether you have it or not. Hugs.

[autotelica]

The only thing you should be ashamed of is that you lowered yourself by being with this guy.

He just isn't very bright.

[Callista]

Bright is irrelevant. He just isn't very kind.

[~Christina]

He sounds like a real piece of work Nice of him to refer to you as his "wife"

Good for you that you are divorcing him .
Oh and if you have him on your Facebook... block and delete him, like asap.

[Anika.]

I would say this post falls into abuse itself. I am glad you are not staying with him. It may also fall into slander. I am really sorry he did that, but know you know the truth about youself and the truth shall and will always set you free.

[costello]

Originally Posted by azizaAkos

what I don't get is why so many people fall for what he says and like it.

If that post is an example of what he says, I don't get why anyone would fall for it either. In fact, I don't believe they do. Maybe they're just afraid if they disagree with him, he'll target them next? Maybe they're too polite to say anything?

His theory makes no sense. Adam Lanza killed those kids because he's an animal rights extremist who wanted to show people how factory farmed animals feel when they're separated from their offspring? If that were so, wouldn't he have left a message somewhere explaining his political agenda instead of destroying his hard drive in order to prevent people from figuring out why he did it?

Are you sure this wasn't intended as some kind of sick joke?

His post is not only deeply disrespectful toward you, but also toward all the families who lost children that day.

[-jimi-]

It sounds like what he thinks he knows about AS he is projecting on the shooter. It is so far fetched. People will always listen to this kind of stuff, because people like "psychobabble". I have AS and I have no idea why he shot the kids and I'm not delusional enough to pretend that I do.