[SDGlambert5045]

It's been about more than a year now since I lost my first love interest to my sworn older enemy by being of Filipino background and twelve years his senior. Even though he dumped me for the older woman who is less than twice his age. And now I have an ongoing but never ending problem with my my mom. She says she doesn't really approve of my now tall and same age ex-boyfriend because she had banned me from everything having to do with him ever again including discussions about him and she often refuses to talk about it with me, even though she wants me to stop talking about him. She won't change her mind without giving up, so she decided to forbid me from all of the above and she's trying to protect me from him so it's the way to keep me from getting hurt by him even more. And whether or not she deemed him a bad influence, despite her having to keep me away from him in order of protecting me from him and from more further hurt by him, even if she banned him from reentering my life. And everything I said from above, it was her final decision which had to be made without changing her mind as a result. What will happen if my mom still refuses to talk about it and bans him from reentering my life forever, and she wants to continue to keep me away from him, ever since I've lost him for my own good?

[unaluna]

Maybe you'll meet someone else that you like and she approves of?

[SDGlambert5045]

Not really, I'd rather remain single than replace him.

[avlady]

stay single!!!!!!!!!!!

[Perna]

If it's an ex-boyfriend and you have broken up then I would turn around and face forward and look at what is going on now and in front of you rather than tying yourself in knots about why and who was right/wrong and if he might still be interested, etc. It is difficult to let go of what is no more but even harder if we hold out hope that it will be again. Look forward and see what comes/does not come instead of looking backward and perhaps tripping over what you can't see when it shows up in your actual, "now" life. What is behind is behind. Turn around and face the "right" way or you can miss your life completely.

[SDGlambert5045]

He even wouldn't let me contact him ever again, and it's basically his new girlfriend's idea to tell him to tell me not to call him and E-Mail him anymore by saying do not or don't. He never contacted me into my mom thinking she says he doesn't want to see me due to lack of contact. And I know it's so unfair right now, my mom had forbidden me to see him again even though she's trying to protect me from him and keep me from getting hurt by him more and more than I ever thought.