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Old May 19, 2013, 03:46 AM
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I don't fall on the asperger's spectrum, but I can relate anyways. It took me years to figure out the right balance between asking questions and just letting people talk.

Letting people talk about themselves can be horribly boring and a lot of us just smile and pretend that it is interesting because we don't want to hurt someone's feelings. For me, shoe shopping and celebrities are my two least favorite topics (unless it is about the rare celebrity that I admire for having actual talent.)

Sometimes you can find one new interesting tidbit among the banal. It's just a matter of being patient and kind. Science is way cool btw!!!
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Old May 19, 2013, 11:48 AM
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I don't fall on the asperger's spectrum, but I can relate anyways. It took me years to figure out the right balance between asking questions and just letting people talk.

Letting people talk about themselves can be horribly boring and a lot of us just smile and pretend that it is interesting because we don't want to hurt someone's feelings. For me, shoe shopping and celebrities are my two least favorite topics (unless it is about the rare celebrity that I admire for having actual talent.)

Sometimes you can find one new interesting tidbit among the banal. It's just a matter of being patient and kind. Science is way cool btw!!!
What a great description. I enjoyed reading your perspective on this.
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Old May 19, 2013, 02:51 PM
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I am terrible at finding that ratio of when to talk and when to listen. I have the problem where my other mental issues prevent me from having significant social filters so I'll just stammer on and on and on and on and on. I'm really not very good in social situations at all. I worked at a grocery store on the front end mostly because I wanted the experience of making small talk again and again with random strangers. Which while it definitely improved my conversational skills. I still struggle with having conversations with anybody that I don't already know intimately. Even then I still say stupid things or just stammer till I'v nothing more to say.
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Old May 20, 2013, 09:29 PM
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My cousin has Autism and I don't think she realizes that just about everyone struggles with social awkwardness at some point in their lives. Lots of people beat up on themselves for not knowing what to say. The big secret is most people don't know really what to say either.
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