[RTerroni]

I was wondering how my fellow people with Asperger's behave out in Public, I typically do OK in social situations but have much difficulty interacting with family members, and I am very concerned about this since my Sister's Wedding is only 3 Weeks away and I am very concerned as to how I will act there (there is still a chance that I might not be able to attend because of it).

[manwithnofriends]

what is it that you "might" do in that wedding that would be upsetting/distressing?

[Lexi232]

It all depends...
Sometimes i dont even know what it depends on. Sometimes i'm okay-ish, and sometimes i can't handle it at all. sleep and food seem to affect this.
I have problems with interacting with those that i want to when in almost overwhelming social areas. And i notice this, usually while its happening, but there's nothing i know that i can do to even express that when in those types of situations.

Could they go there a week or two before the wedding, and you spend time there while it's less overwhelming and different, so you can check it all out, and get used to the area? and maybe walk through the wedding details so you know what's to be expected? and maybe have a place where if it starts getting too overwhelming that you can calm down in? (like one not frequented by others). and maybe explain to your sister that if you suddenly go there that it's okay because you just need to get to somewhere not becoming overwhelming, and that you will return when you can??

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by manwithnofriends

what is it that you "might" do in that wedding that would be upsetting/distressing?

I just don't know how I will react with Family Members who I don't get along with too well.

[manwithnofriends]

Originally Posted by RTerroni

I just don't know how I will react with Family Members who I don't get along with too well.

Your own family or your sister's boyfriend's family?

[unaluna]

As a sister of the bride, seems to me you could just excuse yourself from any conversation that isnt going well, and just spend most of the evening at the bride's table "watching" stuff. How would you prefer things to go?

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by manwithnofriends

Your own family or your sister's boyfriend's family?

My own family mostly, I don't really know my sister's boyfriend's family but I can tell you that I don't like him that much either.

[RTerroni]

I regret to inform everyone that it now looks all but certain that I will not be able to attend my Sister's Wedding, I know that it may look bad to all of you but trust me that I believe that it is for everyones own good (meaning those who will be attending).

[rosska]

Sorry to hear that man. I don't think it sounds bad to me personally. I can very much so sympathise. One of my biggest fears is my brother or my friend getting married because I know I'd have to be involved with the wedding and I'd really prefer not to go at all. I hate being around people, hate all the required interactions, the staring, the judging, the complaints that I've caused offence even though nobody cares that they've caused offence to me by laughing when I stim.

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by rosska

Sorry to hear that man. I don't think it sounds bad to me personally. I can very much so sympathise. One of my biggest fears is my brother or my friend getting married because I know I'd have to be involved with the wedding and I'd really prefer not to go at all. I hate being around people, hate all the required interactions, the staring, the judging, the complaints that I've caused offence even though nobody cares that they've caused offence to me by laughing when I stim.

Well an update on that- it appears now as if I may end up going to the Wedding itself but leaving right after that, not staying around for the Cocktail Hour and certainly not for the actual Wedding Reception this way I don't have to deal with the afro-mentioned family members who I don't get along with.

[RTerroni]

I regret once again to inform everyone that those plans have fallen through, and it now looks like I once again won't be attending (and now it looks more final).

[RTerroni]

It has now been confirmed as I have canceled my Tuxedo rental.

[rosska]

Sorry to hear that man. I know how hard these things can be, and how hard the decision can be to not attend. But if it's what you feel makes you most comfortable, then that's what you need to do.