[HolographicTardis]

Hey guys I know I've posted in this forum before but I don't really get any responses so I'll post again. I believe I have Aspergers Syndrome.mFor hypersensitivity, noises- any loud noises like the vacuum, garage door openers etc cause me to have either a panic attack or a meltdown. Touch- I don't let people touch me period. It doesn't feel normal or right to me. If someone does end up touching me I will most likely flinch or have an anxiety attack. Either way I never let them continue with the physical contact. Also Im asexual so that may contribute. Lately I've tried to be more social but it just is so confusing to me. Eye contact is probably my worst enemy. Apparently there is an unwritten rule of conversation with the amount of eye contact needed?? I don't see why hey just can't write a book about the amount need first of all, but eye contact in general is really uncomfortable for me so I just avoid it. For sarcasm I can use and understand it but only when it's absolutely clear and exaggerated. Like when someone uses the exaggerated tone of voice. "Oh of cooouurse you're right." I don't know I just want to be by myself for the rest of my life. Maybe have one friend who comes over to play video games with me and that's it.

[Lexi232]

eye contact is a really hard thing for me too. growing up, i constantly had people saying "look at me when im speaking to you!" and they would grab my chin/face and force me to look towards their face.. and also in middle school i was told to stop "stareing" and that i was bothering other students, and if i didnt stop i would be in trouble... now sometimes people will tell me to look at them. its still really hard to make eye contact, but i have noticed that when talking i dont need to make eye contact(unless they are wanting to see if im telling the truth (and somehow not making eye contact is interpreted by meaning "what shes saying is a lie"). however i look at the person when im not talking, and they are. that seems to make the other person feel listened to.
also ive learned that if you look at the persons eyebrows, it looks like youre looking them in the eyes.
:hug;

[snickie]

Eye contact is a weird thing for me. Either I stare or I constantly flicker my eyes from thing to thing or look away or whatever. Um. It depends on how comfortable or uncomfortable I am. I usually end up looking at their nose and it satisfies them.

Supposedly eye contact is just a western culture thing anyway.


Sarcasm is a learned response. I've become quite good at using sarcasm deadpan but I always have to ask myself twice if I think the other person is being sarcastic but not being obvious about it. (Someone once tried to teach me that sarcasm was this excessive, grossly exaggerated thing. I made a sarcastic remark and the person was offended and I said I was being sarcastic, and then they're like, "No, that's not sarcasm. This is sarcasm. Ask me if those are my pants." Me: "Are those your pants?" Her: "Noooo, they're your Aunt Carrie's. Of coooouuuuurse they're my pants." No thanks. I prefer subtlety in my sarcasm.)
So there are neurotypicals that have trouble with sarcasm just like those on the spectrum.