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Old Apr 13, 2015, 10:09 AM
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I am terrified by people's gazes at me, it makes me feel so insecure that I fear someone will jump at me and try to choke me out. So, since I have poor eye sight, and I wear glasses, I take them off so that I won't be able to see people's faces anymore, which makes me feel incredibly safe. This is my best technique so far, others include the casual hand in the pocket, looking at the watch, pretending to be busy with the phone, etc. I sometimes just call my mother when I'm in college for no reason, even pretend that I forgot what I wanted to tell her to buy myself some time to come up with a story, without lying of course, somehow. What are your techniques.

I feel like a helpless child all the time. I try to convince myself that I don't have autism, it works, but I'm still socially anxious, and for some reason I don't want medication to resolve this problem. I'm afraid I'll pass this horrible illness to my son. I say my son not daughter, because some boys bully other boys harshly because they don't seem manly enough to be with them, which is what happened to me over the years, and that is not to say that girls don't get bullies or that I hate daughters, no, but when it comes to bullying someone because he's assumed to be not man enough or stupid, especially for a male, it will leave its mark. I remember when I was 18, fresh in college, a female professor asked us what do we read, and I raised my hand and said "I read comics". She kind of forced me to say what comics do I read specifically, so I said "I read Batman". That was my mistake, because after that, I've been bullied by three boys (maybe four?) the entire semester, and they intentionally sit right behind me all the time, and speak ill about me. I was so angry that I wanted to hit them and take my revenge, but I backed out a hundred times. I don't know how to deal with bullies to be honest, but I'm afraid it will happen to my kids as well, and if it happens, I probably won't know how to help them.

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There's much more information out there, today, than ever before, as far as empowering children, even sons to intervene for others or stand up for themselves.

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