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Nov 27, 2019, 04:58 PM
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Hi, I am new to this but have joined as my doctor thinks my husband may have Aspergers and I hadnt heard of it. i have done some reading up and answered a test on his behalf (just to get an idea as I know him so well) and he scored 46 I have started counselling as I felt our marriage was hitting rock bottom but now I think all his behaviours which I thought were just unpleasant and designed to make me feel bad, could really just be symptoms of a condition. If this is the case then he needs my support not a divorce! but how do I support him? he wont have counselling or accept he has any issues, he wont talk about feelings and he wont tolerate much if any physical contact. To be fair to him he has always been like this its just after 15 years i'm worn out with it as its getting worse as he gets older. Is anyone out there married to Aspergers and can give me some advice?
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Nov 28, 2019, 03:43 PM
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Hello cinzuk: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.
 One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest would be the Partners of People & Caregivers Forum. Here's a link:https://psychcentralforums.com/partn...ivers-support/ I'm sorry I don't have personal experiences related to your concern I can share (except that I think your hubby & I probably share some similar tendencies but for different reasons.) However here are links 4 articles on the subject of Asperger's syndrome & relationships plus links to 3 additional articles: 1 on how to persuade a loved one to seek professional help, 1 on how to help a loved one who is in denial, & 1 on how to talk to someone who always gets defensive: Romance, Love and Asperger Syndrome 5 Tips for Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome Aspergers and Non-Aspie Relationships | Divergent Thinkers: Asperger's, NLD & More Self-Care Tips for Those Married to Someone with Asperger Syndrome https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...essional-help/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-way...-denial/?all=1 https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-...dium=popular17 I hope you find PC to be of benefit. 
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Nov 28, 2019, 04:21 PM
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Welcome to pc
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Nov 28, 2019, 05:19 PM
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I'm married to a man with Asperger's, there's a site in the UK that might be of help to you - it was to me. I can pm you the link if you'd like, if you haven't already found it yourself.
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Nov 29, 2019, 04:22 AM
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Thanks so much - i will follow all the links you have suggested. Im so grateful there is support out there. I know he has never ever considered he has issues and I am not looking forward to confronting and looking at Aspergers with him as I know his reaction will be hostility/outrage/denial/so as much as I can learn in advance of this the better and hopefully I can approach it right! xx
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Nov 29, 2019, 04:23 AM
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I would rally appreciate the link, thank you so much
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Nov 29, 2019, 04:29 AM
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Hi FuzzyBear - thanks so much for your welcome, much appreciated xx
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