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iamanders · May 08, 2013, 04:37 PM

some great books on AvPD (people just wanna read about BPD)? And some writing by real avoidants?

shortandcute · May 18, 2013, 12:16 AM

I wish I knew of some that deal with that specifically. You might want to check on google or amazon.com. You can check your library too; sometimes they have pretty decent books on things like that. Good luck!

Piglette · Jun 27, 2013, 07:26 AM

I'd like to read about this too, but there seems to be very little on this subject?

I live in the UK, and Google only has a handful of results, all over £25 (which, for a book, is ridiculous in my opinion); and Amazon just seems to have a handful of books that either have terrible reviews, or are over £30. My local library has nothing. This is it?! Maybe the US has a better collection?...

sumowira · May 25, 2017, 10:56 PM

I read a book that just came out with a character that is the closest to AvPD I've ever found. The diagnosis in the book is different, but it stems from long term extreme child abuse by her parent, and it manifests in the character in some classically avoidant ways.

The book is called Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman.

It made me extremely uncomfortable, because there were so many things that happened in the book that either I've done or I could totally see myself doing.

It also made me uncomfortable when it veered from my experience and I realized again that the character did not have AvPD. She has extremely poor social skills, and also the ending sorts itself out a bit (a lot) too neatly.

It's rare one comes across anything to relate to when one has AvPD. Again, this character does not have it. But if you've ever had the urge to read something that looks walks and talks like AvPD, I absolutely give it my recommendation.

That said, it could be massively triggering. It does end positively (spoiler I guess) though probably not as one might expect. She goes through therapy and makes some pretty huge life changes in the course of the book, and it goes into detail about her anxiety about the changes.

pinkdiva42 · Dec 05, 2017, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by sumowira

I read a book that just came out with a character that is the closest to AvPD I've ever found. The diagnosis in the book is different, but it stems from long term extreme child abuse by her parent, and it manifests in the character in some classically avoidant ways.

The book is called Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman.

It made me extremely uncomfortable, because there were so many things that happened in the book that either I've done or I could totally see myself doing.

It also made me uncomfortable when it veered from my experience and I realized again that the character did not have AvPD. She has extremely poor social skills, and also the ending sorts itself out a bit (a lot) too neatly.

It's rare one comes across anything to relate to when one has AvPD. Again, this character does not have it. But if you've ever had the urge to read something that looks walks and talks like AvPD, I absolutely give it my recommendation.

That said, it could be massively triggering. It does end positively (spoiler I guess) though probably not as one might expect. She goes through therapy and makes some pretty huge life changes in the course of the book, and it goes into detail about her anxiety about the changes.

this book sounds really good and i am going to see if i can get it from my mom as a Christmas gift.. thanks tons.. does anyone have any that are written by real avoidants? this sounds pretty close to it though

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