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Feb 21, 2015, 11:34 AM
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I have been seeing a therapist for the past 6 months, and she thinks I have avpd, and I'm in agreement to a large extent, but I'm not shy, I have a good career and nobody would realise I have any issues unless they try to form a relationship with me! Then the problems surface. I Can't be vulnerable, or depend on anyone, in fact I just can't love anyone or trust anyone. This is how i have been all my life, like most folk here, I had a pretty grim childhood and never felt love for my parents but in order to survive I became superficially compliant, while keeping my real self completely hidden.
So I just wonder if Avpd is really grown up version of inhibited RAD, |
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Feb 21, 2015, 11:36 AM
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My T thinks the same thing - he believes I have AvPD even though outwardly I don't look it as I've learned how to behave in a manner that fits in more with society. He believes it due to the way that I think and feel about well, everything. I do, however, have lots of problems crop up in more subtle ways.
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Feb 21, 2015, 12:48 PM
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I can relate to behaving in ways which are socially acceptable, but it's not comfortable or even genuine at times, it's just appropriate!
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Feb 21, 2015, 01:16 PM
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Look into what makes it a personality disorder. They are definitely different. Apparently therapies for RAD can work for those with AvPD.
Why don't you ask your therapist about the differences? |
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Feb 21, 2015, 01:58 PM
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I did suggest that I probably had RAD as a child and she explained that disorganised attachment was often a precursor for personality disorders, I had my last session with her last week, I really couldn't get anywhere with therapy, the more she pushed the more I closed up,
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Feb 22, 2015, 12:13 AM
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My therapist suggested RAD for me, but I don't fit enough of the requirements, so we dropped it after that. Sorry I can't help more.
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Feb 23, 2015, 01:22 PM
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Not to worry, it was really me just thinking aloud, I'm sure they are different, but I think also very similar,
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Feb 23, 2015, 04:21 PM
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My therapist was really excited about making the connection - until it fell apart. My gut says that RAD happens when children are very young, but AvPD comes about a little later. There are people with AvPD who had lovely parents but were bullied into oblivion.
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Feb 23, 2015, 05:28 PM
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I've mentioned this in other threads and sorry for my redundance, but my therapist, who studied under Albert Ellis (who developed REBT), swears up and own that I'm mistaking social anxiety disorder (SAD) for AvPd. I tell him I'm just that good at hiding who I really am, even he can't see it. This debate has become a running joke between us.
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