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May 22, 2015 at 08:58 PM
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Yes, I'm stealing this idea from another thread.
 Of course there are official diagnosis guidelines, but what do you think of when you imagine a "typical" avie? I think of a person who is lonely but honest and trustworthy, and who limits oneself for fear of being judged, who can only feel free of judgement when alone or with someone who has proven their acceptance, and even then it's uncertain. (That sentence looks ungrammatical and I want to scrap this whole thread because of it but I'm going to leave it because I think it's a good topic. )I think it's also common for avies to be black and white thinkers, who use absolutes to determine safety. Thoughts? |
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May 23, 2015 at 08:08 AM
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When you don't want to be alone, but it's you're natural progression.
When you look forward to being alone, then wish someone was there with you.. and should they be, you're unable to be in the same room as them. __________________ Diagnosed: AvPD. It’s never alright. It comes and it goes. It’s always around, even when it don’t show. They say it gets better. well I guess that it might. But even when it’s better, it’s never alright. |
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May 23, 2015 at 11:39 AM
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That constant stuggle of "I want to go to this, but I can't go to this! If I don't go people will be offended that I didn't go, but if I go they'll be really annoyed that I'm there!"
__________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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May 23, 2015 at 12:25 PM
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May 31, 2015 at 02:22 PM
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If these are traits for this disorder, then now I'm even more certain I have it. I can relate to pretty much everything here. o:
reading this sentence again and it sounds strange to me :/ I can't think of anything to add to this. ^^' __________________  Hello! I'm Minty, the daemian and INFP. Art above by me "Believe in you because you're you!" - Momo Kisaragi |
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Jun 10, 2015 at 06:26 PM
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Usually, "I would be up for anything and try anything....as long as I can do it by myself and there aren't other people around looking at me and judging me"
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Jun 15, 2015 at 07:24 AM
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Such a struggle when it's the sort of thing that requires two+ people!! I tend to then intentionally not even try. Or I just don't do it. And then I'm mad at myself. Especially if other people are like "Come on, just try!" because I feel like I'm totally ruining their fun! __________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Jun 17, 2015 at 04:42 PM
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I get frustrated because people seem to start responding to me as if I just need encouragement because I'm a fragile little thing when really I'd be just fine if they weren't there.
Maybe a part of me has too much pride but I start feeling annoyed when people that can barely do a thing without an audience or companion are framing me as timid, scared and unwilling to try new things. I comfortably eat out alone, travel alone, take care of my car and finances and personal decisions alone yet if I don't want to do karaoke or go to an office party or have challenges sharing my art work I'm a wimpy wet towel, blah! __________________ Be yourself, everyone else is already taken ~ Oscar Wilde |
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Jul 05, 2015 at 02:41 AM
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Testing can go on that list.
Very important in gauging where you fit in and peoples motives. Its done very discreetly because honestly in replies is the utmost importance. There are many different reasons why its done, be it a response from them either by their body language or a simple comment ... or if its something i have said that has triggered my after thoughts into thinking "you idiot. Either way its testing for acceptance and how long you have before you need to act like the phantom and vanish. __________________ Diagnosed: AvPD. It’s never alright. It comes and it goes. It’s always around, even when it don’t show. They say it gets better. well I guess that it might. But even when it’s better, it’s never alright. |
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