completely avoiding people.

First time posting here. So please excuse if any mistakes. I am suffering from huge fear of meeting with people. I am avoiding everyone and feeling shy if i meet people. Not able to communicate properly, Most of the time i stay alone i avoid family functions. I don't enjoy a company of people, i just dont get involved. I make everyone else uncomfortable in the group. I really do not know how do i overcome this fear of talking with people. Day by day my situation is becoming worse. Can someone give me some advice of how to overcome this? Please help me.

Welcome to the forum my friend. Its small and not much activity, but at least we are in this together! I too fell the same way. I never relax amongst other people, always waiting for those uncomftable situations to arise. I think too much, analyse too much. But regarding your question I really have no idea. Personally I dont think there is a way of fixing it if you actually have avpd. Personality disorders is a part of our personality, unfortunately! Dont know your age but you could try talking to a counsellor or therapist?

I too have avpd. I dislike crowds~parties~new jobs~confrontations~family gatherings, even restaurants sometimes!! I used to liken myself to the phrase 'painfully shy' but now I've had enough time and experiences to know I just avoid these things bcuz it makes me uncomfortable. Of course no one understands & they come up with all sorts of reasons~think I should JUST GO, and I'll enjoy myself once I'm there, but I know better!! Makes it real tricky to keep yourself ok and your loved ones happy too

i am exactly the same way and i could have written both of your posts. I cannot go around people no matter what. and I want to get better but i have been like this my whole life. People cant tell me just go to this function and i will feel better because i wont, i will be uncomfortable to the point of going crazy or tears if i try and go into a social situation. I am 42 years old and i dont want to be like this all of my life but i dont see how to break out of this life long cycle. Can anyone please help me or tell me what steps i can take? I am seeing my therapist on the 18th of this month.. I need support from this group please can someone reach out to me and help me?

I would like to think that “personality can change” but don’t ask me how

I know the literature states the opposite... I’m not a fan.

Welcome

It's good to meet you.

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