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Nov 12, 2017 at 07:36 PM
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So i started this job back in May working for this wonderful lady who tries her best to work with my social anxiety issues because she knows i have AvPD so she typically doesn't force me to interact with people outside of work. Now that's all and well but since about a month ago she has been asking me to answer the phone when nobosy was around to get it and i was too afraid of what she would think of me if i told her that it made me uncomfortable so i ended up answering some phone calls. I think i have answered maybe 4 overall but every time i do i have to make some excuse, leave work and go home so i can have a mental breakdown because it was so stressful and made me panic. Just doing that has made me very much dislike the job and i am considering just quitting the job but the process of looking for another one because it involves talking to other people is giving me even more anxiety.
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Nov 12, 2017 at 07:52 PM
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The comparison that I make to my own life is that after each college lecture, I have to lay down in my bed back in my dorm, because I just feel overstimulated, each time I'm sitting that long with others. I haven't been eating with a group of people because once the group gets big, I wind up going silent, and typically have to eat really quickly and then leave because I feel as if I am about to explode.
I usually still go to my lectures, so I feel like you should let your boss know that is has started to make you feel uncomfortable. If she was willing to help you out before, I do not see why she would not want to help you out this time. Hang in there! 
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Nov 12, 2017 at 08:19 PM
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Yes but then i feel like a hindrance because the only reason i am answering them is if there is nobody else around and if i tell her i can't do it then she might think i am inadequate and fire me or tell me to suck it up or whatever. I think inevitably you're right and that i should tell her if she tries to ask me to answer again. I will just have to take the risk. __________________ Character is like a tree and reputation its shadow. The shadow is what we think it is and the tree is the real thing. ~Abraham Lincoln. |
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Dec 08, 2017 at 11:16 AM
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OMG! I know you posted this a while ago, but talking on the phone with strangers is one of the most difficult things for me to do. And I've actually been trained to do it.
If she has been understanding of your MI, I would explain to her that answering the phone is very difficult for you. Seesaw __________________  What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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