[MidnightConfetti]

I know they probably do care. Maybe it's just that they don't understand what I'm feeling right now. Which I understand, but when my parents seem disappointed that I can't go to school because of one of my depression episodes, it hurts. I have tried to explain it to them as best as I can but I think it confused them more. They just think I have a hormonal imbalance. Which it could be but I doubt I should have been dealing with it for years now. I don't know how to let them know I don't want attention or anything or that it isn't fake. It irritates that I'm feeling so over sensitive right now.

[gayleggg]

It's hard for someone who hasn't walked in your shoes to understand what it's like. Your parents are probably frustrated because they can't make you better. All parents want is to do the best they can for there children and that includes trying to make the feel better. Keep remembering that they care they just don't know what to do.

[dragonfly2]

From reading your other posts, it sounds like your parents are pretty focused on your sister right now. They need to be made aware of just how much you are hurting, and I know you have tried to tell them, but something isn't getting through to them. I would get another adult involved. Someone they can't simply write off and say you're "hormonal". You need to somehow make it to school and go straight to the guidance counselor's office. Tell them what's going on. Be totally honest with them and don't downplay things. You're not seeking attention. Ask the counselor to bring your parents in and have a talk with them. Once the school is involved, they will likely be watching to make sure you're getting treatment.

A guidance counselor saved my life when I was your age. They can help, but you need to let them know you're hurting.

[MidnightConfetti]

Originally Posted by dragonfly2

From reading your other posts, it sounds like your parents are pretty focused on your sister right now. They need to be made aware of just how much you are hurting, and I know you have tried to tell them, but something isn't getting through to them. I would get another adult involved. Someone they can't simply write off and say you're "hormonal". You need to somehow make it to school and go straight to the guidance counselor's office. Tell them what's going on. Be totally honest with them and don't downplay things. You're not seeking attention. Ask the counselor to bring your parents in and have a talk with them. Once the school is involved, they will likely be watching to make sure you're getting treatment.

A guidance counselor saved my life when I was your age. They can help, but you need to let them know you're hurting.

They probably don't want to pay for another therapist or any meds they might put me on.

[dragonfly2]

Originally Posted by MidnightConfetti

They probably don't want to pay for another therapist or any meds they might put me on.

Quite frankly, that's too damn bad. As their child, you have a right to medical care, whether or not they want to pay for it. Ability to pay would be a different story, but there are programs to help with that. Simply refusing to get you treatment because they don't feel like it can be considered neglect.

Seriously. Talk to your guidance counselor ASAP.

[catsrhelm]

Midnight, I just think that your parents could be either overwhelmed and paralyzed by that, or they could be coping by going into denial. I think getting a third party involved might be the answer.

[MidnightConfetti]

Originally Posted by dragonfly2

Quite frankly, that's too damn bad. As their child, you have a right to medical care, whether or not they want to pay for it. Ability to pay would be a different story, but there are programs to help with that. Simply refusing to get you treatment because they don't feel like it can be considered neglect.

Seriously. Talk to your guidance counselor ASAP.

thank you for caring so much. I don't think they neglect me. We have been dealing with family problems lately. My mom is going to go see a concelor because she freaked out a couple of days ago. She seems to be avoiding what I think is my problem and trys to explain it in a different way. She "jokingly" said today "the therapists are going to make a fortune off our family." She never jokes like that. It honestly worries me that that's her mindset. Maybe they are just dealing with a lot.

[MidnightConfetti]

Originally Posted by catsrhelm

Midnight, I just think that your parents could be either overwhelmed and paralyzed by that, or they could be coping by going into denial. I think getting a third party involved might be the answer.

I think so too. Thanks for reading

[Victoria'smom]

MidnightConfetti,

I was in exactly in your spot in middle/high school. The school gave me a therapist and a social worker when my SS teacher made it clear that I needed help. I didn't confide in him he was just really good at picking out the students that need help. I was force, my parents did not have a choice. Your parents don't either if it's during school hours. If you're not comfortable with the guidance counseller talk to a teacher in ANY grade that you trust. If they can they will help.

[ultramar]

Is there any way you can see a counselor at school without your parents knowing? If this is possible, it may be a good start, to try to sort things out. I'm sorry you're hurting and wish you the best of luck.

[Dylanzmama]

Lots of hugs your way...my parents totally sucked-never got me any help, stayed ignorant, made it all about them and then disowned me. Luckily you have had some wise people ahead of me give you great suggestions. Keep us posted...how old are you? Feel free to pm me anytime...

[MidnightConfetti]

Originally Posted by ultramar

Is there any way you can see a counselor at school without your parents knowing? If this is possible, it may be a good start, to try to sort things out. I'm sorry you're hurting and wish you the best of luck.

I don't think my counselors give a ****. They are always out of their office at the times kids need them the most. I think they are only a tool used to encourage kids to graduate. But just talking about things in the forums has helped me so much. It has opened me up to so much helpful advice.

[MidnightConfetti]

Originally Posted by Dylanzmama

Lots of hugs your way...my parents totally sucked-never got me any help, stayed ignorant, made it all about them and then disowned me. Luckily you have had some wise people ahead of me give you great suggestions. Keep us posted...how old are you? Feel free to pm me anytime...

I'm sad to hear about the relationship with your parents. I'm 15 now I hope that my experinces with my parents now will help me be a better parent in the future. I thank you greatly for the support