Bipolar Attaction

My shrink told me that there can be 100 people in a large room, and the two who are bipolar will always find each other. Does anyone else see this pattern happening in their own life? It seems that everyone I'm attracted to has bipolar disorder (which I also have) and im wondering if anybody else cant mannage to stay away from those who are dealing with similar issues as us, and why that may be.

Definitely, when I'm manic or hypomanic I notice being pulled toward others who are, too. No matter where I am (I once had a very long chat with a stranger in a supermarket, though it's possible we were both talking at the same time). I always thought it was because everyone else around us was soooooo boring and slooooow. The other manic folks are the only ones keeping up (so to speak)

YES - OTHERS DO THAT CLIQUE CRAP - CUZ THEY DON'T AREN'T SECURE WITH THEMSELFS SO THE STICK TO THE CLICK.

I PERFER THE BACK GROUND, WATCHING, SEE THE B.S. IN THE CHATTY ROOM.

But as you asked - Yes. Drawn either from vibration or have seen the person standing back as well. We end up with simiular things... but usually they are too ensure, because of being there. Or I am too ensure being there so they move away from me.

Whatever

My psych says the same thing. Not just about BP but about other conditions as well. I described my husband to her and she jokingly called us the ADHD twins just based on my descriptions of how we run (or not run) our house.

Yep. I think we do tend to be drawn to people who provide what we think we need, and who we think we can satisfy. My husband has a strange family, and I think he just figure he could handle me. I found he was a man who was smart, funny, and cracked enough to get on my frequency. I have very quiet men in my family, so I knew i could handle the scandinavian introvert deal. A lot of my friends are either bipolar or childhood abuse victims. Hmmmm. Or both. Hmmmmm. 'Tis a strange ole world.

I tend to agree with your pdoc. I became quick friends with others before I realized that they were bipolar.

It's called assortive mating. I'm actually married to someone with bipolar disorder and have several friends with bp also.

I just pick out others who are different than me.

i can see that as being very true. whether it's finding out my new friends are both bipolar or learning my old friends have been recently dx'ed, i have been thinking lately about how many of my friends are bipolar. what a party!

but when i look at what makes us click, it makes sense. we are drawn to each by our typical bipolar characteristics. like someone else mentioned, who else can keep up with, or understand, a bipolar than a bipolar? however we see ourselves, we are generally drawn to people with similar characteristics.

I think we feel better with people that are similar to us, even if we don't realize those similarities at first. I heard a long time ago that psychologists marry psychologists and I didn't put stock in it until I started dating one

I'd have to socialize for that to happen.........

Psychologists tend to divorce psychologists, too Too much professional intimacy can wear you out for the home style variety. LOL. Huggs