[ldm120206]

My boyfriend and I have been together over 3 years now...Recently...this past week...He nearly threw in the towel...I have been out of control for a while now...racing thoughts...accusing him of everything in the world...snapping at him.... we are trying to work things out...he is giving it 110 percent...He said everything goes great for 3-4 months then I go accusing him of stuff and act hateful towards him....I did not tell him when we first starting dating that I was bipolar....I don't think he really unerstands what it is...I believe he thinks it is just mood swings..i have tried to explain it but it seems to make him uncomfortable..How can I get him to understand that the racing thoughts....the accusations...the hatefulness...is just not something i intend to do? i try and struggle to keep it from happening ...but it does... i am not on meds...actually have been off for years....took up alcohol to numb my feelings...but that only led to worse episodes...should i buy him a book??? eventually try to get him to go to therapy with me?

[perpetuallysad]

You should buy him a book or find a good description of it and make him read about it. You could even get him to come on here and read some of our posts, it should enlighten him greatly as to how moods can change and its not like we are wanting those things to happen.

On the other hand, I have to say that you really should consider going to a psychiatrist and getting back on meds. Also, if you aren't in therapy, you may consider that as well. Obviously, getting on meds and seeing a therapist isn't going to make the bipolar go away, but it will help and it may help him to see you are trying to get control of things.

Good luck.

[ldm120206]

Originally Posted by perpetuallysad

You should buy him a book or find a good description of it and make him read about it. You could even get him to come on here and read some of our posts, it should enlighten him greatly as to how moods can change and its not like we are wanting those things to happen.

On the other hand, I have to say that you really should consider going to a psychiatrist and getting back on meds. Also, if you aren't in therapy, you may consider that as well. Obviously, getting on meds and seeing a therapist isn't going to make the bipolar go away, but it will help and it may help him to see you are trying to get control of things.

Good luck.

Definitely going to get back on meds this month...i was on them when we first started dating...No matter what...i am trying to turn myself around...I have to start enjoying my life with or without him

[perpetuallysad]

Good for you! That's a great way to look at things, you do need to do what's best for you first. Plus, once you get on the right track, the rest of your life will be easier anyhow.

Maybe the next time you see your psychiatrist or therapist your friend could go along with you to get a better understanding of what you are dealing with?