[leah0306]

today thought id do some checking in the computer, and i find where my husband has viewed these russian young ladies profiles on facebook.... when he got home i was distant and he asked was it something he did, which i take as an admission of something.... so i havent mentioned this, not yet...should i keep it to myself and see if he does more of this crap-or confront this issue head on?? but if i comfront him-hes computer smart-i believe hel just get even sneaker.... any ideas or thoughts would be greatly appreciated....or experience with this crap and have advise would be great, i am soo pissed,it feels like mental cheating,you know???

[grizmom]

I guess if it was me I would talk to him about it, or talk to your T about it first and get some advice. I'm sorry I don't have much advice for you in this area, but I hope you will be able to figure things out. Good luck!

You have to communicate.

[RRU96]

If I were to find myself in your situation, I would confront him, but not in an agressive manner. You seem to already think there is an admission of guilt. That is not a good way to go into the discussion. Talking to your T might be a good option to help get you cooled down.

I am in no way sticking up for him, but to ask if it was something he did, shows to me that he is worried about upsetting you. Not that he is admitting anything. None of us here know what other issues may be tied into this with the relationship or past experiences, but sincere honesty I feel is the way to go. Holding in these feelings of anger are going to do nothing for you, but rather make things worse when the next issue arises.

Take care, take time, and dont let emotions get the best of you.

[venusss]

Is he friends with her? Is he member of some groups or does he play Farmville or some of the fish games, etc.?

Not trying to defend him, but I personally often receive random friend requests from people I don't know. So of course, i check their profiles than. If he has some good looking picture in profile, it's quite possible some chicks will befriend him...

So please, don't be agressive about it. Ask him, but in a calm way. The worst you can do is blow it out of proportion.

[Fire_Star]

I agree with Farmergirl, "You have to communicate." If you guys have a calm chat, at least it won't get blown out of proportion if there's reasonable explanation.

I know my partner thinks there's hot girls on his Facebook friends list. We're open about it. He tells me and then we both gossip about how cute they are. :P But we're both massive social networkers (we both friend a lot of randoms and talk to a lot of people) and understand that the 1000 friends on there (accepting random adding is bad :P) aren't there to steal he away from me or vice versa etc. Though, I do get edgy with some of the old females he was friends with overseas being on his profiles but I think a bit of jealousy I guess is normal.

If you're not a big social networker, or don't use them as publicity as my partner and I do I can totally understand how you'd be feeling negative but I'm sure if you talk to your husband openly, I'm sure the explanation will be reasonable or something that has a reasonable solution that makes you both comfortable.

[Typo]

I would say talk about it, but not in an aggressive or acquistory manner, wait until you are calm about it and are going to be able to keep a level head (I've leraned from experince discussing something in the heat of the moment never ends well) maybe talk to your T about the manner, and see what they have to say, sometiems it helps to have someone from outside of the situation to view it and give their view on it

Best Wishes
Typo