[findingmyself1005]

I found this page a month ago, and i have enjoyed reading what everyone has to say and i have even spoken to a few of you. But i was wondering if anybody has figured out how to have a healthy relationship while sufferring from bipolar and bdp. I just found out that i suffer from bdp, but i was dianoised with bipolar almost 4 yrs ago. I am almost 35 and yet to have a healthy happy relationship. I had spent meany yrs being with men that needed to be fixed because it took the focus off me, and all the while i knew that they werent the ones for me. I was married for four yrs to a man that needed to be fixed and i wasnt even happy. It was after i left him that i had realized what i was doing and getting no where. So i told myself no more men that were broken, and even though i was abel to find that , but one thing i hadnt fixed myself. So again there i was with someone that it didnt work out. The one man that i feel in love with had to break it off with me because i had slipped into a depression and he couldnt deal with it . i dont balm ehim i wasnt doing anything to help myself. So i was wondering what does it take to have a healthy relationship when you feel like they are going to hurt you or leave you

[Hopeful78]

findingmyself1005, I am in a similar place in my life. I don't have a great answer for you, but maybe you'd like to know you're not alone in the struggle to find these answers.

PM anytime if you'd like to talk privately.

[sugahorse1]

I'm in a similar position. While I'm only 24 and only recently diagnosed (Depression diagnosed for a year, but I know I've been dealing with it for around 8 years). I have been on and off with my boyfriend for about 4.5 years (we had a 6 month break, as I was going through what I think was an episode; I needed someone there for me and he had too many of his own issues to be able to be there, and I unfortunately ended up having an affair)
Anyway, we are back together again, and have been for the last year. We also live together. I am finding it so hard to act rational or real explain to him what I'm going through.
It takes a really tolerant partner. At least he does understand I need to be on meds, but sometimes I wish I just had the right things to say to him, how to handle me.