[sugahorse1]

How do you handle these feelings? I usually get them when I'm about to enter a depressive episode. Even though I may be surrounded by a whole lot of people, and maybe even have a lot of people to talk to - I often just cannot shake these feelings.

[wing]

I jus live with them, suga. Or you can fight them by calling a friend.

[Gus1234U]

yes, endurance is a great skill for living with a brain disorder... when you are better,, you might consider taking up meditation or something, so you will have another resource for times like these,,, stay with us,, suga~~ best wishes,, Gus

[sabby]

I don't suffer from bp, but I do sometimes go through some depressive states now and again. I suffer from fibromyalgia which in itself can cause depression. I also know the loneliness that can accompany those times and it's quite sad to feel that way don't you think?

I find that with me, I generally feel lonely because I'm keeping my thoughts to myself and not sharing them. Things will go round and round in my mind with seemingly no place for them to be released. Sometimes our closest family and friends just don't seem to "get it" and it's hard to put ourselves out there with our thoughts and feelings if we think we will not be understood or validated.

I know we are all different in how we deal with our issues, but I have found that when I push myself to reach out and when I give myself permission to accept my feelings as just that, feelings, I begin to feel better and I can work through that difficulty.

I hope you find your way to feeling better very soon. Take good care of yourself!

[SunReach]

I agree with Sabby...
I do have my periods of loneliness as well, and the strange thing is that sometimes they come either after, or in the midst of being very busy or even happy! The other week I was on a hiking trip with friends and I was having such a good time with lovely people, and at some point, as I was sat among everyone else something switched and I dropped, and it was terrible because what do you do when being with friends isn't enough to keep loneliness away?! But I checked myself on the spot, I realised tiredness had started getting to me and that the reason for feeling lonely was that I felt sth good was coming to an end and then I'd lose it forever - if that makes sense. I think in most cases loneliness is related to some kind of loss (not necessarily related to people.) So in the end I managed to just be content feeling a bit detached in the presence of others, in the knowledge that it is temporary and nothing is actually lost.

Sorry, I went a bit off there....I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometimes loneliness has nothing to do with people but something that goes missing or askew and has to do with us alone, fear of something, or losing sight of something important in our own heads..I see this doesn't make as much sense here as it does in my head, but I'm not good at explaining these things..!

[lonegael]

Sometimes I thin kthat it is easy t feel lonely when yu can't really focaus on what's happening here and now. If you are starting to worry about soemthing that might happen, or about hwt others might be thinging, or what might happen, if... or any of the other things that depression is good at starting us up to think, then it is pretty goo to guess that you can't really focus on really being with the people you are with. It's not just them being there for you, you have to be reachable Depression seals us off. It's good you see the warning signs, Suga. Huggs, hon.

[sugahorse1]

Thanks everyone. It just hits me out of no-where sometimes. But I agree - if I had the strength to investigate it further, I would probably realise there is something deep-routed, like the fear of losing something.
I'm ok, just had a few minutes here and there when I really feel hopeless and alone.

[lonegael]

Well if it helps, we're out here in the ether, so you're not completely alone there. when you start feeling that cold feeling, just imagine me being bossy, and then, well, I don't know if it will make you feel less alone, but it might make alone feel better Just kidding. Hugs hon.