[donut]

I work in an intense field with people day in day out. I have now just got to the stage where I just want to hide away miles from human habitation. I am depressed it is true but I just long to get away from people. I am an unsociable git!

[sundog]

Well that makes two of us then!!!! I find it exhausting interacting with people all the time. I am someone who needs a lot of alone-time. Always have. Maybe because I don't have siblings so I was used to spending time alone right from the get-go. I'm sorry your job is so stressful. Can you at least chill out on your own at weekends?

[ladyjrnlist]

You are not a git.

[PT52]

agree with all of the above. If I don't have regular time to myself, I get really agitated. My husband called me a hermit until he realized that I'm quite content with my alone time. It's not an anti-social thing, it's a recharging thing.

[sugahorse1]

I suffer from 2 very conflicting feelings. If I get left alone, I often like I've been abandoned and let down. This kills me.
At other times, I just want to run away from people - but I tihnk it's more from the stress that these people project and cause, rather than actually run away from people. I don't know; there are some days where I am VERY content to spend some time on my own.

[donut]

Thanks for replies.

It seems the older I get the more I crave aloneness. It is not that I dislike people, I love them. It is just That in my role I feel like they sap all my energy. I would quite happily spend a few months in a log cabin miles from anywhere.

Looks like I am not the only one eh?

[billieJ]

donut ~ I recall similar feelings when I was working in a job of helping very needy others. Such longings to shut others out are not pleasant, but are preferable, in my opionion [having seen both sides], to being jobless and far away from family and friends. I agree with the above that solitude is needed for recharging, and I guess it is the right individual balance is what we seek.

[sugahorse1]

You are definitely not alone in your feelings. Maybe take the time out on a weekend and go away to a remote area. To just be with your thoughts and feelings and recharge those batteries

[dayton52]

If you are an introvert, this is exactly what you need to do. The introvert/extrovert is not really about how outgoing or social you are, it's about how you need to recharge and regroup--introverts need time alone to do it; extroverts need interaction with others. Wanting to be alone sometimes each day doesn't make you anti-social at all--you're responding to what you body, mind, and soul tells you you need. Embrace the time and use it.

[halloweenwitch]

I too work with people all the time, I'm a teacher. and i find being the centre of attention and having to be responsible and in control all the time very hard. I am also an introvert and need to be alone to recharge; however, when I am depressed, as i am now i need to be alone even more than normal. i think that regardless of your basic personality, depression does that to us all. it doesnt make you a git, it is a symptom of a larger problem. don't batter your self about it, and don't let anyone else do it either.

[donut]

thanks a;; for responses. good to know I am not alone in waanting to be alone!

[sugahorse1]

You definitely aren't! Even with my rejection and abandonment issues, I sometimes really just enjoy the time out alone. And even if I spend it in bed!