Does anyone else feel that after they talk with their T -- even with a list of thoughts-- that they ended up discussing things that were not were not really what was concerning them?

[disguise123]

not that i have a T , but in the past? yes!
My last t kept going on about my mother...... Which seemed pointless to me, so that was the end of that!

[CesarioRose]

yea, this happens to us sometimes. I'll start trying to illustrate that i am one mood or another, and we start talking about my social anxiety, or we do family/parts work. Or i'd be suddenly in a normal mood, when i was previously in depressed or mixed, or hyper, and i forget what happens, and we just celebrate the normality while we can.

[yagalada]

all the time. its me who leads the session, my T usually just asks for clarification and will give suggestions but i usually end up talking about things i wouldnt expect. sometimes she has to reign me in though becuase i'll go all over the place

[Kymaro]

A good T is very skilled at picking up small que's. Sometimes your opening coversation you will mention something that seems little or un-important to you, yet the T will pick it up that is may be a stressor thus resulting into your current situation. Sometimes treating the "source of pain" is better than treating the pain in it self.

Originally Posted by Kymaro

A good T is very skilled at picking up small que's. Sometimes your opening coversation you will mention something that seems little or un-important to you, yet the T will pick it up that is may be a stressor thus resulting into your current situation. Sometimes treating the "source of pain" is better than treating the pain in it self.

That's my t. I rarely go in with an agenda in the first place though. He is VERY good at getting to the crux of things even when I don't see it myself.

I have been trying to bring a list of what I want to talk about - and just hand it to her - it makes it easier for me. Otherwise i do the exact same thing, drive home and say " Oh Sh**..! I forgot about XYZ.

[GreenIvy]

In the past I've had that happen. I go in with points that I want to discuss and we cover just a couple of them. Sometimes this is a good things but sometimes it is quite frustrating if there was something that I felt was really important to discuss and we didn't talk about it. I try to make a point to let them know at the beginning if there is anything I want to make sure we cover during the session.

[Merlin]

Sometimes I enjoy to let the topic go where it will. I ended up taking to my pdoc about my hope for things in the middle east, but we realized that it mirrored my hope about my own life. There are times when there is something specific I would like to talk about, but often I prefer to allow the topic to emerge.

[sugahorse1]

At the end of the day, there's a reason you discussed what you did- I strongly feel that while the topics may not have been on your list, they were still important