[hentaywee]

This is when I hate having bipolar. I was undiagnosed, made a poor decision to get married then divorced. I've dated a few times, but the hypomania always overrides my sense of judgement. Now I never saw how I feel, thinking its just my mind playing tricks on me. Its just a friendship, but I just wish my "imagination" would quit lol.

Has anyone else every experienced something like this?

[sugahorse1]

I think it's very common if you are untreated; you just have no real perception of reality.
It does get better with meds. It is also imperative that your partner is aware and does what he can to help you through the tough patches. To understand the difference between a BP reaction and a normal mood swing

[kathleen slattery]

Just bear in mind hentaywee that 50% of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, and that number jumps to 67% for second marriages. I have been married for 24 years, and I have watched this unfold with so many families.
So I am not certain that there is a huge correlation between your own situation, and that of the norm group. Obviously many people find out rapidly that they held rosy views of marriage, and didn't really know what they were signing up for. That's why church groups mandate Pre-Cana courses before automatically tying the knot for people; because of what you described, and because of that huge statistic.
Mania most certainly can and does put a stressor on a marriage, but if you have the love and support of a genuine partner, it can of course be overcome. As you would advise anybody, in a relationship take it nice and slow, and don't jump rashly into anything before you know that person. IMO.

[RoseButterflyWings]

A bit of an opposite to this situation, but similar. I have been contemplating divorcing my husband, but I can't tell if that's my illnesses talking, or really me. I don't know if it's a rational decision, or an impulse. And I don't know if it's the "right" thing to do or not. Especially because I have a child.

[Direction]

It may also be a bit of your emotional intensity (BPD) creeping in...it is frustrating...never to be sure if they are real emotions for someone...or are they a bit distorted...best advice is to take it slow and continue the friendship...with BPD our view of people can change quickly back and forth

[hentaywee]

Originally Posted by RoseButterflyWings

A bit of an opposite to this situation, but similar. I have been contemplating divorcing my husband, but I can't tell if that's my illnesses talking, or really me. I don't know if it's a rational decision, or an impulse. And I don't know if it's the "right" thing to do or not. Especially because I have a child.

Have you talked to your husband about how you feel? I know my emotions overrode my rational thought, and it's what caused my marriage to collapse. IMO, I'd suggest that you two try marriage counselling, or maybe see if he'd be willing to accompany you to a session or two if you are seeing T. But I do know where you are coming from since I was in the same situation, with my child. Unless you are being abused, I hope you can work things out and enjoy your family.

[hentaywee]

kathleen,

I don't expect to remarry. My view of marriage wasn't "rosy". And I had serious doubts of getting married when I did. But learning that I was pregnant, not being dx'd, or under treatment was too much. I was convinced by my ex, and my family, to get married (courthouse ). I regretted it even more down the road. THe relationship was rocky, I lost my disability benefits, and it was just h**l.

Even if I do eventually find someone that accepts me as I am, I'm content with being on my own, and spending more time with my child.