[jdnc2011]

So I've been reading a ton on BPD and have become convinced, altough clearly I'm not qualified, that my boyfriend (former boyfriend?) is BP. We've been through a terrible 2 1/2 weeks...I'll try to keep it short but not miss anything.

We met in grad school, 8 yrs ago. Never dated then but had a few drunken makeout sessions and lots of unresovled interest in each other. With both of us finally single, we started dating at Christmas and it has been awesome. Everything just clicked. We like to do the same sorts of things, love to spend time with family, his family loved me, mine loved him...and the sexual connection was like it is supposed to be. He is my "one" He thanked god for putting me in his life. We had both waited a long time to find eachother and suddenly there we were....until.....

He works a super stressful job with a lot of travelling and just relocated to the east coast. While out west, packing his house, he also had to clear up a pending DUI case - where he spent a night in jail to do so- as he's packing his company informs him that the merger thats moving him east may or may not be continuing. That night, he calls me and leaves me a voicemail saying he "doesn't want to do this anymore" ie our relationship. Totally out of the blue for me. Then, he texts me in the middle of the night saying hes a terrible person and sorry to spring it on me...and sends me an email of an application for a marriage license to some random woman!

I was stunned, so I called his mom that morning. She is the one who originally brought up bipolar. Apparently there is history in his family. He got mad that I told her, called me and just kept calling himself crazy. Saying I should move on. That night, I told him I thought I was pregnant (bad timing on my part). He totally flipped out and was very hateful. Saying things like I don't want to be with you, I don't want you, etc. The next day he got back to the east coast and was calling and emailing apologizing but saying theres not much he could do about it right now.

I found out a week later that I am indeed pregnant. Again, I called him to let him know. Again he was nasty about it. I quit talking to him for a few days. He texted 2 days later, "I'm sorry. For so many things. But sorry is all I have right now" Called 2 days after that and I called him back. He was at work, but we chatted for a while and he sounded good. Told me things were unravelling with work and he needed to get everything out of his life so he could sort out the problem but that since I went away he realized I clearly wasn't the problem. I didn't bring up the pregnancy, because I wanted him to stay good. But, he left the country yesterday for a few months so I did bring it up again a few days ago and he was again just cruel. Saying he doesn't love me and he never did, he doesn't want me, he wants this other woman who lives across the country, etc. etc.

Now he's gone for a while and its quiet. I love him dearly despite this behavior. Hes so back and forth right now. I don't know what to do or if I can do anything at all. We were happy and good for eachother but he just exploded....

[sugahorse1]

He seems to be under a lot of stress as it is.
He sounds like he could benefit from some therapy sessions to help him deal with what he's going through. Thereafter it would be possible to give a more accurate dx. A therapist or psychiatrist would be involved in this process.
Personally, I don't think the way he's acting and behaving does not limit him to a dx of Bipolar. There's so much going on in his life right now, that everything is inter-related.
He needs to sort the stress out first. And it may entail you having to take a step back, however hard that may be right now

[Direction]

Welcome!

Wow that is a lot going on and would be very triggering for most. Keep yourself safe...talk to a support person or professional...encourage him to do the same...