[dal37]

yesterday was a great day for the wife and I. she is in her "normal" state of mind right now, which is always good, but we also had a good talk about whats been going on and that i convinced her to talk to her therapist about her cheating so we talked about that. She made me feel good about us again. i know it will be a long road ahead with pot holes and mountains to climb, but she said that she wants to be better for me and us and that she will try her hardest to be that. and all her meds and therapy is doing some good. like i said a long way from where we want to be but her manic episodes are getting farther apart and shorter already as well as her depressive episodes. and this morning conversation went well too. we talked about a lot of our likes and dislikes and just what makes us tick. i always love learning more about her. it makes me feel accomplished and emotionally connected to her. i need that especially since there cant be any physical connection right now.

on a different note. today is day 2 on waiting to see if i get approved to come back home early. i have high hopes that it will, but i still get nervous everytime i think about it cuz i have no control over what the military will do with my life.

so things are looking up.

[BlackPup]

Glad things are looking up for you both. You seem to have a realistic perspective on things which is really healthy. Your wife is lucky for your support.
Don't forget to address your feelings about what has happened and about living with a partner with BP. You are allowed to react to what has happened, with sadness, anger, grief or whatever you are feeling.

[dal37]

Originally Posted by dal37

yesterday was a great day for the wife and I. she is in her "normal" state of mind right now, which is always good, but we also had a good talk about whats been going on and that i convinced her to talk to her therapist about her cheating so we talked about that. She made me feel good about us again. i know it will be a long road ahead with pot holes and mountains to climb, but she said that she wants to be better for me and us and that she will try her hardest to be that. and all her meds and therapy is doing some good. like i said a long way from where we want to be but her manic episodes are getting farther apart and shorter already as well as her depressive episodes. and this morning conversation went well too. we talked about a lot of our likes and dislikes and just what makes us tick. i always love learning more about her. it makes me feel accomplished and emotionally connected to her. i need that especially since there cant be any physical connection right now.

on a different note. today is day 2 on waiting to see if i get approved to come back home early. i have high hopes that it will, but i still get nervous everytime i think about it cuz i have no control over what the military will do with my life.

so things are looking up.

trust me. during that conversation we discussed how i felt about the situation. and im not over it but i feel better than i did before when she wouldnt talk to me about it. im really glad she decided to talk to her therapist about it. shes the one that convinced her it was a good idea to have the conversation with me.

[BlackPup]

Good to hear. Keep healthy, its a long road ahead. But it will go easier with good communication like yesterday and a supportive spouse helps heaps (trust me - my hubby's support made a huge difference to where I have ended up after the journey of finding good medications and coming to terms with my diagnosis)
Good luck for your application to return home. Thoughts and prayers are with you both.