[chlorophyll]

I'm hoping this desire will go away quick time because it started on a high phase for me so it must be irrational!! Obviously I know I am YOUNG (I'm 17 by the way) and there's no way I could take care of a baby properly [I'd feel sorry for the baby] besides I have other plans, but my mind is not fully registering this! I feel like I must have a baby NOW and I will be the most amazing awesomest mother ever. But no!! No way!! I'm 17!

So how do I take irrational ideas and use rational thought to remove those desires? How has everyone else gone about it for various ideas?

[Miss Laura]

Hey Chlorophy,

Be really careful ok you are wise to talk about it and I am glad you have realised that its irrational thinking. If you feel your getting worse I would suggest seeking professional help ie a GP, Psych

Keep posting ok!!

[jack123]

You are smart, even though you are wanting a baby you see that is irrational. Babies are alot of hard work at any age. Seek out help if you need it.

[wing]

Be sure you are using a contraceptive, chlor...

[chlorophyll]

Thanks guys, I may try to bring this up in T. It's a bit embarrassing though, especially as my T is way older and has children my age, maybe even daughters my age!

wingin'it said:

Be sure you are using a contraceptive, chlor...

Haha, don't worry, there's no need. I'm not even in a relationship which makes it even more mega weird.

[Yoda]

chlorophyll, I really respect you because while you have a strong emotion that makes you want to have a baby you are smart enough to know that right now is not the best time to do it.

The one thing that I would advise you to consider is to complete your education before you have a child. It is really hard to work a job full or part time, go to school if that is something you want to do and take care of a child. Now me, when I was seventeen, I wasn't even sure what job or education I wanted to pursue so it took me a few years to find the path right for me.

Are there ways you might express your love for children now by perhaps babysitting or working some this summer at a daycare? Quite honestly it is fun to be able to enjoy children and then send them home with their parents sometimes.

Thanks guys, I may try to bring this up in T. It's a bit embarrassing though, especially as my T is way older and has children my age, maybe even daughters my age!

Don't be embarrassed to bring this up in T - that is what T is for.
i'm sure you will be an awesome Mom but it doesn't have to be NOW. It can be in 5 or 10 or 15 years when you've had some more life experience. I don't know where you are, but if you can catch an episode of '16 and Pregnant" on MTV, those girls do not have it easy.

So how do I take irrational ideas and use rational thought to remove those desires? How has everyone else gone about it for various ideas?

Think about the things you want to do with your life that having a child would get in the way of...school, traveling, dating etc...those thoughts might help you get rid of those desires for a child immediately.

[chlorophyll]

Yoda said:

The one thing that I would advise you to consider is to complete your education before you have a child. It is really hard to work a job full or part time, go to school if that is something you want to do and take care of a child. Now me, when I was seventeen, I wasn't even sure what job or education I wanted to pursue so it took me a few years to find the path right for me.

Are there ways you might express your love for children now by perhaps babysitting or working some this summer at a daycare? Quite honestly it is fun to be able to enjoy children and then send them home with their parents sometimes.

That sounds like a good idea actually. The only problem is that all the daycare centers have enough work experience volunteers from what I know. And nobody I know needs a babysitter or knows me well enough to leave their kids with me probably. Hmm. I dunno. Thanks anyway, worth a try!

jadedmoonbeam said:

Don't be embarrassed to bring this up in T - that is what T is for.
i'm sure you will be an awesome Mom but it doesn't have to be NOW. It can be in 5 or 10 or 15 years when you've had some more life experience. I don't know where you are, but if you can catch an episode of '16 and Pregnant" on MTV, those girls do not have it easy.

I know you're right aswell. I guess it's just, some of the other things I've touched upon with my T makes me wonder if he would be thinking I'm as out of my mind I as think I must be! Oh I dunno! You know, the odd thing about your suggestion is that I was watching Teen Mom by MTV yesterday and I know they don't have it easy at all. Yet I feel even more by watching it that I can do a good job (like the blonde Southern girl - I forget her name) so perhaps I should avoid it - or watch some of the ones on the British channels where they have it bad

Haha sorry I talk too much sometimes. Thanks for all your suggestions!

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by chlorophyll

I guess it's just, some of the other things I've touched upon with my T makes me wonder if he would be thinking I'm as out of my mind I as think I must be! Oh I dunno!

HaHa, chorophyll, there's nothing wrong with being out of our minds. Why my mind is quite strange indeed but I'm happy and my kid and my horse like me just fine. There is nothing wrong with being different. Embrace what makes you unique.

I'm glad you joined PC. Looking forward to getting to know you.

[Direction]

Originally Posted by chlorophyll

So how do I take irrational ideas and use rational thought to remove those desires? How has everyone else gone about it for various ideas?

I call it mythbusting....

1. What emotion (or emotions) are you feeling now?
2. Describe, in detail, the event or situation that gave rise to your emotion.
3. Describe your thoughts, and identify any distortions in your thinking
4. Refute the distortions

There are various thinking styles that are not healthy and commonly referred to as filters or distortions. Check this article out http://psychcentral.com/lib/2009/15-...e-distortions/.

As you work through the steps you will start to understand better the underlying emotion that would compel you to want a child as well as any distorations.

[chlorophyll]

Direction said:

1. What emotion (or emotions) are you feeling now?
2. Describe, in detail, the event or situation that gave rise to your emotion.
3. Describe your thoughts, and identify any distortions in your thinking
4. Refute the distortions

I just tried that and it worked for now Wow, everyone is so helpful, thank you!