[William Werner]

Recently my wife has been extremely agitated by my mood swings. She has stated that even if I went to the pdoc the rest of life it would not any go because I am in her words "psychoboy". I am in therapy and have been using statements to voice my feelings and attempting to head off further escalation.I have resorted to not responding and then using some of my coping skills, like gardening which is favorite to help control anger. I have not been diagnosed with any anxiety disorders but am now finding myself increasing very anxious especiaaly in social situations.

[dragonfly2]

Hi William,

I'm sorry you are feeling so poorly right now. What your wife is doing is very cruel, no matter how irritated she might be about the situation. Calling you "psychoboy" is just as cruel and damaging as calling someone with a developmental disability a "retard" or someone in a wheelchair a "cripple" nowadays. It is not OK and this type of cruel name calling borders on abuse. It sounds like you are responding to her in a controlled, mature fashion and you deserve a lot of credit for that.

You mentioned you are working with a therapist. Do you have a pdoc? Don't let your wife discourage you from going to a pdoc. Mood swings and anxiety are very treatable, and there is a good chance you could find significant relief with medication.
It sounds like she needs to possibly go with you to a therapy session. Your therapist may be able to get through to her about how destructive she is being to you and help her understand that YES, you can get better.

Continue using your coping skills. If you need to avoid your wife for a while, that may be best (as well as you can under the same roof), just for your own health. It's so hard when the therapist says to avoid your triggers....what do you do if your triggers live with you?? I struggle with that sometimes myself.
Your garden can be your sanctuary while you try to heal.

I hope you find some relief soon.

[Direction]

[William Werner]

Dragonfly2,

I am seeing a pdoc and will be discussing possibly changing my meds or at least fine tuning them. Thank you for concern. My therapist had mentioned having her come and I am going to push for that. In the meantime I am going to do my best not to let her negative views influence the progress I am making. No one should be allowed to denegrate anyone just because they mental disorder, physical problem or learning problem. One goals is going to challenging peoples' ignorance and/or fear and help them learn no one deserves to be ttreated differently period.

[BlackPup]

Welcome,
sorry your wife is not supportive definitely think that joint T sessions may help...
Good luck with the meds, when they are balanced you will be able to deal with this alot better. (though you are doing a great job already)