[cheeri]

I have seen tons of threads about when to tell a new person...particularly a new relationship...that you have BP. I never paid attention, because I have never really cared. Now I'm in a situation that requires me to revisit this subject.

My original plan was to build empathy for mental illness as a whole. Then once I know I created a case and opened his mind, drop the bomb.

However, the longer I wait, the more deceitful I will seem. So the question is when? and probably more importantly, how?

If I make it seem like a big deal, then he will think it is. And is it? I'm quite wonderful and fine now.

His ex was anorexic, so I fear he will be like, I don't do crazy women anymore.

I know there is really no magic answer here, but maybe you guys could share positive and negative experiences...

[Forgive77]

I have a friend who had an eating disorder. She went through years of therapy. Did he? I think that he might be a lot more empathetic than you think if he has. And...being anorexic was probably hard for him to tell you, so I think you should be able to trust him it sounds like.

[estimated prophet]

this may be a long shot, but if you watch a movie about mental health (nothing ridiculouslike silence of the lambs) more like garden state, or a beutiful mind, it may be a good ice breaker. Ha. Just a suggestion.

[BlackPup]

I go for sooner rather than later because if they are going to react badly I don't want to have as much invested in them.