[mfn2012]

A few years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD, and Bipolar NSO. While I accepted the ADHD, I didn't feel that the Bipolar diagnosis was accurate.

To save everyone the long story, which is very consistent with what I have read thus far, 6 months ago I went on Aderall to treat my ADHD. Ever since then, my behavior changed dramatically. It go more aggressive, short fused, and I started to suspect that my wife was cheating on me. Realization of this broke her back and now I find myself living at my parents house, went through a manic phase where I blogged nearly 6 hours a day, nearly 4000+ words. My wife is a wonderful woman and she just had enough. She does not know at this point what she wants to do, but needless to say she has put up a wall when it comes to me, saying that she needs some emotional space and needs to work on getting herself back. We hae a child together and I don't get to see my kid everyday, when I talk to him on the phone he cries for me to come home, or constantly asks me if I will be home in a while. I have now accepted my bipolar, and am seeking medication.

I am level headed now and would like to stay this way until I least get the medication. How long can I expect the medication to start taking effect?

How long do I give my wife to get herself back, give her an emotional break, just to see if she is going to work on our relationship? How do I deal with the fact that she has totally put the wall up?

[zbmom]

I think those are things your pdoc or a T are going to be able to help you with. I'm not sure what the answers would be.

[sugahorse1]

I agree. There's no quick fix answer, and I would honestly suggest addressing this through therapy. Have someone to bounce ideas off and someone to challenge you; offer you advice and insight.
When you are in a stable place and your meds are working, I would definitely encourage you to work on your relationship with your wife.
My relationship was terrible before I was dx'd and medicated