[Hydrophobic1212]

Once again, I'm having feelings regarding my boyfriend that are sadly familiar. My moods shift and because of that, I have on again, off again feelings that really annoy me.

One day (or part of the day) I'll be like 'oh, yes, I do want to be going out with this guy' but then there will be times when I'm like 'oh, no, I don't want to be dating at all, he's too clingy, blah, blah, blah'. It shifts with my mood and I don't know how to deal with it.

What makes it worse is it shows to him. When I'm feeling like I don't want to be with him, I talk less to him and seem less enthusiastic but when I do want to be with him, I talk more and am like my usual self.

So! This brings me to two different questions/situations:

1. How do I cope with these feelings?
2. Do you think it would it be worth it to explain the real situation to this boy, that I have something going on mentally that is causing this so he fully understands? I told him I had an anxiety disorder (which isn't really true, exactly... I get anxiety but it's not an anxiety disorder). He's a trust worthy person and I don't see how it'd be any different than telling my friends (which I've done). But at the same time, I worry about what would happen...

I don't know. I'm starting to ramble now. lol Those are my two questions, and my situation right now.

Thanks for all the help in advance~

[madisgram]

do you have atherapist or an irl friend u trust to talk to about this? it sounds like mood swings.
the other thought-do you really enjoy his company?

[Hydrophobic1212]

Yeah, I talked to my therapist about this briefly. We got side tracked and I won't see her again for another month or so. I'll probably discuss with my mother too.

I do enjoy his company, he's a great friend to me so I know it's got to be mood swings. I'm pretty sure that's what's going on and when I need suggestions for coping, for.

Thank you.

[roads]

If you got sidetracked I'm wondering how important he really is, but of course I don't know what sidetracked you...
I'd talk with my mom if I were you, before spilling all to him. Complete honesty is terrific but it is total vulnerability--& that's a huge step with a guy. That's giving over power. If you've got a good relationship with mom (& I sense you do) thrash it out there 1st.
I'm more your grandma's age. I love your sig re: brave. Know, though, that many a foolishness has been thought brave at the time. Brave & rash are sometimes hard to distinguish without the experience of having been there.

[Hydrophobic1212]

We started talking about something more important that took higher presidence. But yes, I do plan on talking to my mother about it. I don't think I'd ever be totally honest with a guy unless they were my soon-to-be hubby. I'd probably skirt around the truth and tell certain points of it.

Thank you for your help!

[cybermember]

Honesty doesn't give over power. Quite the contrary.