Have hard time saying "I love you"

Mar 17, 2012, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by argv

no, I mean, it's almost painful to say, and I feel guilty saying it. I used to always say "I heart you" because I didn't feel so guilty saying that. haha

Something stands out to me here, something that's an important emotional experience. Ties into to your Sociopath/Psychopath thread. Maybe something to ponder.

argv · Mar 17, 2012, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Irreplaceable

I don't think that there is a connection with having a difficult time saying "i love you". I can say it to relatives but it's harder to do so with a man.

But this may be a trait - For me, when I'm in a relationship, it's difficult to accept it when someone says, "i love you". I have asked my bf several times "Why?" with my face scrunched up like "really? why would you love me? what is your motive? are you just saying that?". Every single time I ask why he says, "are you serious? you don't know why?". I can't accept it. In all honesty, I feel like I'm not loveable when it comes to men. And that's not to say it in a way as "woa as me", it's just my reality. For now. Maybe it's him. Maybe it's me...Who knows...

yeah, that's how I feel. I'm like "you love me? you barely know me" or something sometimes. Like.. how can people love someone they don't really even know. My family doesn't know me that well, not as a person.

argv · Mar 17, 2012, 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Anika

Something stands out to me here, something that's an important emotional experience. Ties into to your Sociopath/Psychopath thread. Maybe something to ponder.

Well, that's what I'm wondering. Is this normal? I see it isn't a bipolar trait exactly. It makes sense having not had alot of "I love you's" floating around as a child to be uncomfortable with the idea of saying it. Then again, some people just say it just to say it, and don't mean a word of it. Sometimes at work I randomly tell people I love them just for a joke.

but again, I'm perplexed and it was just something I noticed about myself that I wondered about. I'm still trying to figure out if I'm really an actual sociopath/psychopath of if I'm just... something else? Maybe I'm just weird about certain things.

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