[blossom12]

I know, I know... what is new with this sort of thing.

I met this incredible, intelligent, intellectual guy at a bipolar depression support group. We met in January and just started talking about 5 weeks ago, then dated for 3 weeks. It went fast. There was a deep connection, getting serious, then he broke it off. He has spent the last 4 years alone. He is shy, low self esteem. No real friends. I was completely smitten. He knew all about my problems from the support group sharing. And he was still very interested. We spent 10 hours together at a time on one date. I was very smitten.

Then he broke it off, citing things we don't have in common. I am just devastated. I know this is not normal behavior, to go so fast, then break up. But he is such an incredible, unusual, unique, enlightened, love filled being. I think he is afraid of being so vulnerable. But it broke my heart. I was so happy for a few weeks. (Combination of him, new Celexa Rx, and spring finally arriving).

I am depressed now, but not the horrible depression I had earlier this year that involved no emotion at all. This is a sadness and grief depression, which, for me, is not as bad.

I am trying the usual- yoga, keep busy, talk to friends.
Unfortunately, i dont feel I can go back to the support grp because he went there for 3 years, although he says I should go and he will take a vacation from it.

I feel such a loss. Guys with that level of sensitivity and enlightenment are few.

[~Christina]

Im so sorry Blossom (((( Hugs))))

[BuggsBunny]

I'm sorry too. It is hard to lose such an intense relationship with someone that you have connected so well with.

How long have you been going to the support group? Maybe it is a good idea that he take a break, if he has been going longer, and that you not lose your support system.

Hang in there, and allow yourself to feel the grief. It's better for you than trying to ignore it.

[hamster-bamster]

Very sorry to learn that this has happened to you.

[BipolaRNurse]

I'm sorry, too.

In another sense, however, I wonder if you will be better off in the long run finding someone who isn't battling mental illness too. I know that where my family is concerned, one bipolar in the house (me) is one too many! OTOH, nobody understands the problem like a fellow sufferer......and as long as one of you has their (rhymes with "spit") together, things ought to be OK. I dunno. Hope everything works out for the best.

[cocoabeans]

You'll be alright. I don't think a support group is a good way to meet someone for that kind of relationship. It is risky and you can easily become too dependant on each other or focused on your problems being what ties you to together.